"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What is harder? Playing a sport or picking up girls?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Picking up girls is definitely harder than sports. But maybe that's just me, physical feats just come naturally to me.
 

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I'd say picking up girls is harder. Sure both can be very hard at the start and have a learning curve. The key difference is that trying to get good a picking up women can affect your confidence, ego and self-esteem in a way that sports never could. It's obvious which one hurts more, missing 10 baskets in a row and getting rejected 10 times in a row.

There also is an amount of fear that is associated with picking up women. Nobody is going to be scared while trying to throw a football for the first time. But you tell an average dude to go talk to a hot girl and he may give you a thousand excuses.
 

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Maxtro said:
I'd say picking up girls is harder. Sure both can be very hard at the start and have a learning curve. The key difference is that trying to get good a picking up women can affect your confidence, ego and self-esteem in a way that sports never could. It's obvious which one hurts more, missing 10 baskets in a row and getting rejected 10 times in a row.

There also is an amount of fear that is associated with picking up women. Nobody is going to be scared while trying to throw a football for the first time. But you tell an average dude to go talk to a hot girl and he may give you a thousand excuses.
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It depends on the sport. Some sports need endurance, some need strategy. It also depends on the type of girl you're trying to pick up. The heavy ones are harder to pick up obviously.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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guys anyone can get good with women...its easy...some how we make it hard...

gettting to a very good standard in sports (eg professional level - often your genetics wont help) is harder
 

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picking up women is easy but some of you guys just overcomplicate things and make it harder for yourselves by following those fancy formulas you've got in here.
 

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Sports are way easier. They play by rules.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Picking up chicks is easier than playing hockey, but chicks can hurt you more than another hockey player.
 

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Sports are not nearly as hard as girls. It's easy for me to push my body to the limit. Physical discomfort is temporary and can even be enjoyed. But it seems impossible to push my mind to the limit. The mental discomfort that girls cause seems to last forever, with infinite intensity. Squatting a 1RM for multiple sets, sprinting at 100% capacity, walking all day while carrying heavy weight...it all seems like a joke compared to the pain of getting rejected, insulted or ignored by a girl.
 

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Sports. Particularly high jump, but maybe not netball.






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So how many girls have you picked up?
Oh I've reached my post limit for today so I might go read some more of The Lacuna or watch a film.

Two, but they just kind of happened. Like when I play tennis, I don't really know the rules or how the scoring works but sometimes I hit the ball and get lucky. Guys are like sitting on the bench though for any sport, you don't even have to know how to play the game to know how to sit on the bench and just watch it happen. Girls are much harder to pick up than guys, but I suppose I've never really, properly tried 'picking-up' someone.
 
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vatoloco said:
Sports are way easier. They play by rules.

:D
And they're easier to understand! The pain you get from sports is more enjoyable than the pain you get from a girl turning you down.

Playing a videogame is much easier than both of these because they come with an instruction manual!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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never use a manual. just fiddle about.


nismo check your inbox!
 

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There also is an amount of fear that is associated with picking up women. Nobody is going to be scared while trying to throw a football for the first time.
If you're a failure at football, you've failed at a sport.
But if you're a failure with women, you've failing at life (or some may look at it that way).

Not to say if you have to be good with women to have a good life, but it's hard to see a life as complete if you haven't had some women in it - unless you're a monk or such.
 

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Would you compare Michael Phelps to Mystery? Or Ronaldo to Doc Love?
 

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Sounds like you've never done either if you have to ask. Apples and oranges.
 

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zekko said:
Not to say if you have to be good with women to have a good life, but it's hard to see a life as complete if you haven't had some women in it - unless you're a monk or such.
This is what I feel about my life right now. Not that it's all bad, just feels like something important is missing (and trying to fill it with other things is just a temporary fix).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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