Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What is harder? Playing a sport or picking up girls?

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Picking up girls is definitely harder than sports. But maybe that's just me, physical feats just come naturally to me.
 

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I'd say picking up girls is harder. Sure both can be very hard at the start and have a learning curve. The key difference is that trying to get good a picking up women can affect your confidence, ego and self-esteem in a way that sports never could. It's obvious which one hurts more, missing 10 baskets in a row and getting rejected 10 times in a row.

There also is an amount of fear that is associated with picking up women. Nobody is going to be scared while trying to throw a football for the first time. But you tell an average dude to go talk to a hot girl and he may give you a thousand excuses.
 

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Maxtro said:
I'd say picking up girls is harder. Sure both can be very hard at the start and have a learning curve. The key difference is that trying to get good a picking up women can affect your confidence, ego and self-esteem in a way that sports never could. It's obvious which one hurts more, missing 10 baskets in a row and getting rejected 10 times in a row.

There also is an amount of fear that is associated with picking up women. Nobody is going to be scared while trying to throw a football for the first time. But you tell an average dude to go talk to a hot girl and he may give you a thousand excuses.
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It depends on the sport. Some sports need endurance, some need strategy. It also depends on the type of girl you're trying to pick up. The heavy ones are harder to pick up obviously.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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guys anyone can get good with women...its easy...some how we make it hard...

gettting to a very good standard in sports (eg professional level - often your genetics wont help) is harder
 

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picking up women is easy but some of you guys just overcomplicate things and make it harder for yourselves by following those fancy formulas you've got in here.
 

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Sports are way easier. They play by rules.

:D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Picking up chicks is easier than playing hockey, but chicks can hurt you more than another hockey player.
 

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Sports are not nearly as hard as girls. It's easy for me to push my body to the limit. Physical discomfort is temporary and can even be enjoyed. But it seems impossible to push my mind to the limit. The mental discomfort that girls cause seems to last forever, with infinite intensity. Squatting a 1RM for multiple sets, sprinting at 100% capacity, walking all day while carrying heavy weight...it all seems like a joke compared to the pain of getting rejected, insulted or ignored by a girl.
 

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Sports. Particularly high jump, but maybe not netball.






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Maxtro said:
So how many girls have you picked up?
Oh I've reached my post limit for today so I might go read some more of The Lacuna or watch a film.

Two, but they just kind of happened. Like when I play tennis, I don't really know the rules or how the scoring works but sometimes I hit the ball and get lucky. Guys are like sitting on the bench though for any sport, you don't even have to know how to play the game to know how to sit on the bench and just watch it happen. Girls are much harder to pick up than guys, but I suppose I've never really, properly tried 'picking-up' someone.
 
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vatoloco said:
Sports are way easier. They play by rules.

:D
And they're easier to understand! The pain you get from sports is more enjoyable than the pain you get from a girl turning you down.

Playing a videogame is much easier than both of these because they come with an instruction manual!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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never use a manual. just fiddle about.


nismo check your inbox!
 

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There also is an amount of fear that is associated with picking up women. Nobody is going to be scared while trying to throw a football for the first time.
If you're a failure at football, you've failed at a sport.
But if you're a failure with women, you've failing at life (or some may look at it that way).

Not to say if you have to be good with women to have a good life, but it's hard to see a life as complete if you haven't had some women in it - unless you're a monk or such.
 

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Would you compare Michael Phelps to Mystery? Or Ronaldo to Doc Love?
 

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Sounds like you've never done either if you have to ask. Apples and oranges.
 

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zekko said:
Not to say if you have to be good with women to have a good life, but it's hard to see a life as complete if you haven't had some women in it - unless you're a monk or such.
This is what I feel about my life right now. Not that it's all bad, just feels like something important is missing (and trying to fill it with other things is just a temporary fix).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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