"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What is harder? Playing a sport or picking up girls?

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This is what I feel about my life right now. Not that it's all bad, just feels like something important is missing (and trying to fill it with other things is just a temporary fix).
When I said that, you have to remember that I'm 49.
If you're a younger fellow, it's important that you not feel like a failure - you're still learning. That's what you're supposed to be doing. You have plenty of time to work things out, gain experiences, and become a man. Things got better for me as I got older.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You can't compare the two, but as far as sheer *difficulty*, playing a sport is definitiely harder. Any jackass can learn how to score a few bimbos, but it takes years of hard work and dedication to become really good at a sport.

And as far as the pain you get from girls being worse than in sports...what?! Since when does getting rejected by a girl compare to getting literally pounded? I've gotten rejected by girls a LOT and in about every way possible, and trust me, that hurts WAY less than going over the middle to catch a pass and getting a helmet in the chest from an opposing linebacker.
 

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sandman6991 said:
You can't compare the two, but as far as sheer *difficulty*, playing a sport is definitiely harder. Any jackass can learn how to score a few bimbos, but it takes years of hard work and dedication to become really good at a sport.

And as far as the pain you get from girls being worse than in sports...what?! Since when does getting rejected by a girl compare to getting literally pounded? I've gotten rejected by girls a LOT and in about every way possible, and trust me, that hurts WAY less than going over the middle to catch a pass and getting a helmet in the chest from an opposing linebacker.
Then what? You're lying on the ground, with a couple of bruises you get up and finish the game. All you have to endure is chest soreness for a couple of days. That's all.

If you are rejected by a girl however, it haunts you for the rest of your life, in your sleep, when you eat, when you take a shower, when you dream, a little voice tells you: sandman6991, keep telling yourself you are the prize, but you were rejected, again. Don't you see? It's obvious. you are not good enough. You are not attractive. Girls even think you're below those nerds they are dating, that's how unattractive you are, so you are going to marry a huge sperm whale or dy alone and masturbating forever.

Wish you were tackled by the linebacker now huh?
 

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i dont think you can compare these 2.

"playing" sports is easy. any 5 year old can play.
playing in the NFL? not easy

picking up girls is easy. any 5 year old can flirt with girls
being a true don juan? not easy
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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J. Darko said:
Then what? You're lying on the ground, with a couple of bruises you get up and finish the game. All you have to endure is chest soreness for a couple of days. That's all.

If you are rejected by a girl however, it haunts you for the rest of your life, in your sleep, when you eat, when you take a shower, when you dream, a little voice tells you: sandman6991, keep telling yourself you are the prize, but you were rejected, again. Don't you see? It's obvious. you are not good enough. You are not attractive. Girls even think you're below those nerds they are dating, that's how unattractive you are, so you are going to marry a huge sperm whale or dy alone and masturbating forever.

Wish you were tackled by the linebacker now huh?
J. Darko, I've been tackled by that linebacker and I've been rejected by girls, and no, I still choose getting turned down by a woman anyday. (Although that doesn't change my love for football, the pain is part of what makes it special)

Getting rejected by a girl isn't going to trigger that ridiculous self-depreciating speech to myself. So, you're saying that when you're rejected by a girl that it haunts you for the rest of your life? That's just flat-out crazy. It pisses me off for about an hour or two if it's a girl I really liked, but I don't start questioning the very basis of my self-worth. Anyone who lets a rejection get to them like that, to the point of constant obsession, seriously needs to get help.

Obviously a break-up takes a little longer to get over than a normal rejection, but I would choose getting dumped over tearing my ACL again anyday.
 

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sandman6991 said:
J. Darko, I've been tackled by that linebacker and I've been rejected by girls, and no, I still choose getting turned down by a woman anyday. (Although that doesn't change my love for football, the pain is part of what makes it special)

Getting rejected by a girl isn't going to trigger that ridiculous self-depreciating speech to myself. So, you're saying that when you're rejected by a girl that it haunts you for the rest of your life? That's just flat-out crazy. It pisses me off for about an hour or two if it's a girl I really liked, but I don't start questioning the very basis of my self-worth. Anyone who lets a rejection get to them like that, to the point of constant obsession, seriously needs to get help.

Obviously a break-up takes a little longer to get over than a normal rejection, but I would choose getting dumped over tearing my ACL again anyday.
Guess you have a lot more confidence than me. :p And indeed, little compares to tearing a muscle.
 

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Sounds like you've never done either if you have to ask. Apples and oranges.
This.

As a collegiate athlete I pretty much had a paranoia that if I ever took a day off from training, someone else was working their tail off that day to be better than me.

There really isnt an analog to this daily grind when it comes to girls. Even for an LTR the main reason that she is your LTR is because she makes your life better, not more stressful.
 

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It is not comparable, women can be easier than scoring some point, but at least in sports you know what is expected of you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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J. Darko said:
Guess you have a lot more confidence than me. :p And indeed, little compares to tearing a muscle.
Haha I've just learned to not let stuff like that get me down too much...all I can do is learn from it and do better next time
 

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I wish I could use my hockey approach to pickup : Skating fast and hitting the unsuspecting player with the shoulder.
 

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J. Darko said:
If you are rejected by a girl however, it haunts you for the rest of your life, in your sleep, when you eat, when you take a shower, when you dream, a little voice tells you:
dude you have serious fuc.king issues if you take rejection that badly...
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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