"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What is Backbone

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I was reading the Bible, and fall into the Nice Guy category,

I have the decisiveness,
I think I am really getting the confidence,

But what really is backbone, can someone define it?


Thanks,

Foamy
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Standing up for yourself and your beliefs, rather than acting based on what others tell you to do.
 

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CrunchyNut said:
Standing up for yourself and your beliefs, rather than acting based on what others tell you to do.
Not taking sh!t from people who want to put you down or take advantage (manipulation, leeching) of you.

Activelly pursuing what you desire no matter what.
 

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Whats the difference then between decisiveness then? Is not decisiveness knowing what you want, being taken advantage one of them? Or is decisiveness just taking action, where backbone is knowing when someone is taking advantage?


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foamy said:
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Whats the difference then between decisiveness then? Is not decisiveness knowing what you want, being taken advantage one of them? Or is decisiveness just taking action, where backbone is knowing when someone is taking advantage?

Foamy
Why do you need to know this? Just to philosophize the nature of the construct insdie your mind? To what end?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Having a backbone means that even through the toughest of situations you keep your character.
 

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Having a backbone means you are a mammalian male and you walk on 2 legs, you are not a slug, you are not a sloth, you are a tree standing tall and firm and you can weather any change in the weather, and over time, you will get beaten up, but no one can ever bring you down except some damn loggers :p

Decisiveness in and of itself does not denote strength, it merely shows that you don't ponder over crap too much. However, someone can be decisive and still change his mind once some bytch tells him she doesn't like blahblah or blah about him or his lunch plans.
 
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