"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Not taking sh!t from people who want to put you down or take advantage (manipulation, leeching) of you.CrunchyNut said:
Activelly pursuing what you desire no matter what.
Whats the difference then between decisiveness then? Is not decisiveness knowing what you want, being taken advantage one of them? Or is decisiveness just taking action, where backbone is knowing when someone is taking advantage?
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Why do you need to know this? Just to philosophize the nature of the construct insdie your mind? To what end?foamy said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Decisiveness in and of itself does not denote strength, it merely shows that you don't ponder over crap too much. However, someone can be decisive and still change his mind once some bytch tells him she doesn't like blahblah or blah about him or his lunch plans.