"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what is a good size to aim for?

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I am 5"8...only 135 lb with 4.1% bf (natrually skinny)

what is a good proportion to reach and maintain?

how many inches arms, chest, waist, and legs should i be aiming for?

what about body weight?

thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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whatever size you feel/look your best at. just eat and train and see what happens.
 

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It depends on the kind of body you are looking for. Some people dig the cut look, which you would get at around 150 lbs and low bodyfat (around 8-9%). Other people prefer the stocky look, which could take you to around 180 lbs.

It's all up to personal preference. Personally, I'm shooting for 165 lbs and 8% bodyfat, but that's just me.
 

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There are some generell "ideal" standards which weight you will look good @:

Weight: 180 lbs 10% BF @ 5'8

Which give you roughly:

Arms: 15.5"
Chest: 43"
Waist: 32"
Thighs: 23"

These are far from correct though. Your genetic potential will determine how fast your muscles will grow and the proportion you get.
 

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If I were you I'd shoot for 155 with low bf. Twenty lbs increments are great for judging your progress.

10 lbs can be a weekly phase because of water weight and maybe you're switching from cutting to bulking, etc. 20 lbs implies progress.

Then, when you reach 155 you can decide to cut more bf or keep gaining.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Being 'skinny' doesn't make you at 4.1% bodyfat.

At that measurement, you would be absolutely shredded. However, it's possible. I'd be extremely jealous if thats the case.


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