"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What instantly tells you a dude is going through a 'mid life crisis'?

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I can testify some stories coming from some people I know including my father. Things like cheating on your significant other, buying expensive stuff and not living within your means etc. What are you guys opinion on this matter? Can a guy have a mid life crisis or is it a normal state of mind people go through every day?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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This varies from era to era. During The 1970s, I'm told one could identify such a man by noting the leisure suit he'd thrown on + The fact that he was a few decades past twenty

Today, beware any guy who graduated HS in The early 2000s, who's rediscovered his affinity for New Found Glory, Good Charlotte, and regular visits to Hot Topic
 

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Today, beware any guy who graduated HS in The early 2000s, who's rediscovered his affinity for New Found Glory, Good Charlotte, and regular visits to Hot Topic
Lol...sounds like me minus the tattoos, accessories and spiked up hair....I still listen to plenty of early 2000s and late 90s pop music...as a matter a fact I was listening to Britney Spears oops I did it again while taking a dump the other day lol haha.

But seriously, the EMO style is still in style decades after it has gone out in my opinion.
 

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I've always thought mid life crisis is projection from the perspective of others.

I don't think you can easily infer someone's internal state based on superficial external behaviors like that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I've always thought mid life crisis is projection from the perspective of others.

I don't think you can easily infer someone's internal state based on superficial external behaviors like that.
Yes.

There’s a big difference between “I genuinely enjoy XYZ” and “I’m doing XYZ because I’m insecure about my age.”
 

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Yes.

There’s a big difference between “I genuinely enjoy XYZ” and “I’m doing XYZ because I’m insecure about my age.”
For the past 70 or so years, "acting your age" in your 40s and 50s means means developing male breasts, going bald, becoming diabetic, and being poison dripped by an ugly/fat wife. If you're fit, stylish, have your hair, maybe drive a nice car, and you insist on still running through women half your age, it's somehow seen as a sign of immaturity or insecurity, which is just absurd. All the shame is just coping from men who have let themselves and all their dreams go and have somehow convinced themselves that having man boobs is normal.
 
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Lol...sounds like me minus the tattoos, accessories and spiked up hair....I still listen to plenty of early 2000s and late 90s pop music...
You're certifiably "there" then, no less so than a 60something gal who began using her preferred pronouns, the day after Trump was elected in '16
 

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Sometimes a midlife crisis is appropriate, as oftentimes a man will be in a crisis in the midst of his life.

Ofcourse you mean stuff that's already been mentioned. But the positive side of a midlife crisis might be a man suddenly realising he gotta lose weight, stopping xyz while actually doing what should be done.

Could be small shyte like dressing better.
Could be whatever positive thing .
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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guy is working hard to be happy. but does not know how. no mentor, no luck, just hard work. at some point he understand he is improving but not happy. instead of figuring out the truth he starts randomly making adjustments. usually his resources are much more than when he is younger.

good or bad, who knows... its just another season of life. some of the mid life crisis events are the most interesting of life. its a time when your constraints have changed but the problems are the same.
 

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Being on Sosuave for several years despite knowing what to do to attract women.

He'd rather give advice because its much more fun to tell people what to do than to improve and be vulnerable.
 

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Dying ur hair (looks weird on most men)
 

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A man with a fat wife that gets in great shape.
 

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Guys that suddenly want to go out to the clubs again in their early 40s.
That might be true in some cases but I think the problem with your assertion is that you're using conformity as a standard instead of an individual's relationship with reality.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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