Okay, once again I wasn't clear enough in my original post. I don't find my passions boring (then why would it be my passion?) but it's not exciting as some dude who can play the guitar really good, or an awesome basketball player, etc.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What if your passions are boring?
- Thread starter nonameok
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Then get off your ass, stop whining and posting on this board, and be a MAN and pick up a sport like I told you to already. If you have a sport as a hobby then you will be more athletic and more interesting to girls. Do it.nonameok said:
The passion itself is not the important thing.
My two great passions are achieving a PhD in my field and competing at high levels in sports. I've done one (sports) and am well on the way to the other.
Which one of those would you consider more 'interesting'?
Now guess which one no girl I've met gave two sh!ts about, and which one everyone constantly wants to hear about.
My two great passions are achieving a PhD in my field and competing at high levels in sports. I've done one (sports) and am well on the way to the other.
Which one of those would you consider more 'interesting'?
Now guess which one no girl I've met gave two sh!ts about, and which one everyone constantly wants to hear about.
It's as boring as you want to make it, or the opposite as interesting and enthralling as you make it. If you present it well, she will be dying to hear you talk more about it. How passionate are you about this field really? If you can use that energy and enthusiasm, and put it into words that's all you need.nonameok said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Sorry, unless you have bow-hunting skills, computer hacking skills, and numbchuck skills, you won't get a girlfriend.
nonameok said:
You are being ambiguous, we need to know what your passions are before we can help you. What do you mean your passions are not "socially acceptable"? Do you watch porn all day or try to figure out how to rob banks?
If your passion is writing poetry in your room all day, well, chances are a good looking girl won't be wanting to tear clothes off when she is with you. Women like a sense of adventure, a sense of excitement, a sense of danger. Granted you shouldn't change your passion to please her, but you should look at yourself in the mirror if your passion is collecting nude scenes of Hollywood stars.