Okay, once again I wasn't clear enough in my original post. I don't find my passions boring (then why would it be my passion?) but it's not exciting as some dude who can play the guitar really good, or an awesome basketball player, etc.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What if your passions are boring?
- Thread starter nonameok
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Then get off your ass, stop whining and posting on this board, and be a MAN and pick up a sport like I told you to already. If you have a sport as a hobby then you will be more athletic and more interesting to girls. Do it.nonameok said:
The passion itself is not the important thing.
My two great passions are achieving a PhD in my field and competing at high levels in sports. I've done one (sports) and am well on the way to the other.
Which one of those would you consider more 'interesting'?
Now guess which one no girl I've met gave two sh!ts about, and which one everyone constantly wants to hear about.
My two great passions are achieving a PhD in my field and competing at high levels in sports. I've done one (sports) and am well on the way to the other.
Which one of those would you consider more 'interesting'?
Now guess which one no girl I've met gave two sh!ts about, and which one everyone constantly wants to hear about.
It's as boring as you want to make it, or the opposite as interesting and enthralling as you make it. If you present it well, she will be dying to hear you talk more about it. How passionate are you about this field really? If you can use that energy and enthusiasm, and put it into words that's all you need.nonameok said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Sorry, unless you have bow-hunting skills, computer hacking skills, and numbchuck skills, you won't get a girlfriend.
nonameok said:
You are being ambiguous, we need to know what your passions are before we can help you. What do you mean your passions are not "socially acceptable"? Do you watch porn all day or try to figure out how to rob banks?
If your passion is writing poetry in your room all day, well, chances are a good looking girl won't be wanting to tear clothes off when she is with you. Women like a sense of adventure, a sense of excitement, a sense of danger. Granted you shouldn't change your passion to please her, but you should look at yourself in the mirror if your passion is collecting nude scenes of Hollywood stars.