Okay, once again I wasn't clear enough in my original post. I don't find my passions boring (then why would it be my passion?) but it's not exciting as some dude who can play the guitar really good, or an awesome basketball player, etc.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What if your passions are boring?
- Thread starter nonameok
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Then get off your ass, stop whining and posting on this board, and be a MAN and pick up a sport like I told you to already. If you have a sport as a hobby then you will be more athletic and more interesting to girls. Do it.nonameok said:
The passion itself is not the important thing.
My two great passions are achieving a PhD in my field and competing at high levels in sports. I've done one (sports) and am well on the way to the other.
Which one of those would you consider more 'interesting'?
Now guess which one no girl I've met gave two sh!ts about, and which one everyone constantly wants to hear about.
My two great passions are achieving a PhD in my field and competing at high levels in sports. I've done one (sports) and am well on the way to the other.
Which one of those would you consider more 'interesting'?
Now guess which one no girl I've met gave two sh!ts about, and which one everyone constantly wants to hear about.
It's as boring as you want to make it, or the opposite as interesting and enthralling as you make it. If you present it well, she will be dying to hear you talk more about it. How passionate are you about this field really? If you can use that energy and enthusiasm, and put it into words that's all you need.nonameok said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Sorry, unless you have bow-hunting skills, computer hacking skills, and numbchuck skills, you won't get a girlfriend.
nonameok said:
You are being ambiguous, we need to know what your passions are before we can help you. What do you mean your passions are not "socially acceptable"? Do you watch porn all day or try to figure out how to rob banks?
If your passion is writing poetry in your room all day, well, chances are a good looking girl won't be wanting to tear clothes off when she is with you. Women like a sense of adventure, a sense of excitement, a sense of danger. Granted you shouldn't change your passion to please her, but you should look at yourself in the mirror if your passion is collecting nude scenes of Hollywood stars.