I know it seems like another excuse, but it's hard to meet girls when you sleep really weird hours. I wake up at midnight usually (and yes, I have a job, two jobs actually). I'm not going to go to the bar right as I get up with only an hour left until they close. And I can't imagine gaming a girl at IHOP or a 24-hour coffee place. I'm very unphotogenic and don't do well with online dating, so that's not an option either.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What if you sleep really weird hours?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Uhhh why the hell are you waking up at midnight then? I work at 8 and wake up at 6, which gives me plenty of time to get my workout in beforehand. Why don't you wake up at 5 or 6, work until 4 and then have until 11 or 12 free?
7-4 aren't weird hours at all...
7-4 aren't weird hours at all...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
M-F: Wake up at 5am or 6am. Work until 4.
Saturday/Sunday: Go to bed late Friday, sleep in Saturday. Work 8-4. Go to bed late Saturday, sleep in Sunday. Work 8-4. Nap if you want. Work 7-4. Sleep at 8/9 at the earliest.
Or quit your stupid weekend job if you can't handle going without sleep for like 26 hours every week.
Was that really that hard?
if you work grave, you are seperated from any sort of social life. I did this for a year, and still recovering. I suggest you get a day time, or a swing shift job, untill then, forget about a social life. You will be too tired to even try to date chicks. I've been there.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Another alternative, if it's too difficult to change your sleeping schedule, is to go ahead and go to the bars/clubs etc. and befriend the staff. They usually appreciate their late night regulars who aren't drunk and obnoxious at closing time. Many of the folks in the "late-night" service industry tend to hang out for some few hours after work, thought it is usually at invite-only after-hours type establishments or in rotating "house-party lite" type situations. Most of them like to party, but tend to stick into a tighter social circle. These mini-circles tend to contain many attractive women (hostesses, food servers, ****tail waitresses, and hot bartenders, who all tend to be hired, at least in part, due to their looks). The "gatekeepers" to this sort of scene usually are the more popular male bartenders, become solid friends with these guys...and you're in.