I know it seems like another excuse, but it's hard to meet girls when you sleep really weird hours. I wake up at midnight usually (and yes, I have a job, two jobs actually). I'm not going to go to the bar right as I get up with only an hour left until they close. And I can't imagine gaming a girl at IHOP or a 24-hour coffee place. I'm very unphotogenic and don't do well with online dating, so that's not an option either.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What if you sleep really weird hours?
- Thread starter lazikia
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Uhhh why the hell are you waking up at midnight then? I work at 8 and wake up at 6, which gives me plenty of time to get my workout in beforehand. Why don't you wake up at 5 or 6, work until 4 and then have until 11 or 12 free?
7-4 aren't weird hours at all...
7-4 aren't weird hours at all...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
M-F: Wake up at 5am or 6am. Work until 4.
Saturday/Sunday: Go to bed late Friday, sleep in Saturday. Work 8-4. Go to bed late Saturday, sleep in Sunday. Work 8-4. Nap if you want. Work 7-4. Sleep at 8/9 at the earliest.
Or quit your stupid weekend job if you can't handle going without sleep for like 26 hours every week.
Was that really that hard?
if you work grave, you are seperated from any sort of social life. I did this for a year, and still recovering. I suggest you get a day time, or a swing shift job, untill then, forget about a social life. You will be too tired to even try to date chicks. I've been there.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Another alternative, if it's too difficult to change your sleeping schedule, is to go ahead and go to the bars/clubs etc. and befriend the staff. They usually appreciate their late night regulars who aren't drunk and obnoxious at closing time. Many of the folks in the "late-night" service industry tend to hang out for some few hours after work, thought it is usually at invite-only after-hours type establishments or in rotating "house-party lite" type situations. Most of them like to party, but tend to stick into a tighter social circle. These mini-circles tend to contain many attractive women (hostesses, food servers, ****tail waitresses, and hot bartenders, who all tend to be hired, at least in part, due to their looks). The "gatekeepers" to this sort of scene usually are the more popular male bartenders, become solid friends with these guys...and you're in.