"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
what if you ask her out for a drink but she said
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
icantgetlaid
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a girl who wanted to go out with you/get to know you more/etc. wouldn't make that comment with a hard stop.
she would agree and then order non alcoholic .. or suggest coffee or something.
Right to a degree. But theres actually women out there who DONT drink...
I would turn it into a joke..like "oh so you prefer intravenous fluids for hydration?" just something cheeky/corny. Flip it on her and tell her a NON ALCOHOLIC drink...like tea. If she is still giving you excuses after that then drop her.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Or offer something else. Don't be such a lame dude where you have to try on alcohol to 'take the edge off', that's pvssy sh!t right there. You gotta learn to get drunk off life. That way everything you do is fun.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
dustmuffin
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Derek Flint
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Learn some attraction skills first...
EyeBRollin
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
wifehunter
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No response warranted.
You are trying to be nice, invite her out and connect with her, and she is being sarcastic. What the hell is that?
Move on. This is not the time to come up with a witty comeback so she will see the light.
