"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What if she looks like she's with someone?

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So I was at the gym today and there was a girl that seemed kinda older than me (early/mid twenties) and I'm 18 turning 19, but I did the whole eye contact thing with her whenever we were around each other, and she reciprocated. However, it seemed like she was with a guy, so I'm wondering what does a DJ do in that situation where it seems like a girl is interested in you and you're interested in her, but she might be there with someone? Haha I'm assuming she was interested because a female friend that I was there with also mentioned that she noticed the girl was "hardcore checking me out" too.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi,

If its that hard to tell you make an approach and find out first hand. If shes interested you will get either a # or a date out of the interaction.

Fable said:
So I was at the gym today and there was a girl that seemed kinda older than me (early/mid twenties) and I'm 18 turning 19, but I did the whole eye contact thing with her whenever we were around each other, and she reciprocated. However, it seemed like she was with a guy, so I'm wondering what does a DJ do in that situation where it seems like a girl is interested in you and you're interested in her, but she might be there with someone? Haha I'm assuming she was interested because a female friend that I was there with also mentioned that she noticed the girl was "hardcore checking me out" too.
 

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Fable said:
So I was at the gym today and there was a girl that seemed kinda older than me (early/mid twenties) and I'm 18 turning 19, but I did the whole eye contact thing with her whenever we were around each other, and she reciprocated. However, it seemed like she was with a guy, so I'm wondering what does a DJ do in that situation where it seems like a girl is interested in you and you're interested in her, but she might be there with someone? Haha I'm assuming she was interested because a female friend that I was there with also mentioned that she noticed the girl was "hardcore checking me out" too.
Ever seen the movie "just friends" ? Anyway there's a scene in it in which Ryan Reynolds sees a girl checking him out at the ice rink. She's with another guy.
Basically he confronts her and C/F tells her she should be ashamed of herself checking him out in front of her boyfriend. A bit over the top but I think the right idea. She of course denies that the dude is her BF.
 

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jtlancer said:
Ever seen the movie "just friends" ? Anyway there's a scene in it in which Ryan Reynolds sees a girl checking him out at the ice rink. She's with another guy.
Basically he confronts her and C/F tells her she should be ashamed of herself checking him out in front of her boyfriend. A bit over the top but I think the right idea. She of course denies that the dude is her BF.
Haha. That's brilliant, I'll add it to the repertoire and see if I can get the balls to try it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lots of the other PUA -type forums (i dont recal any of this on Sosuave or in DJbible- correct me if im wrong) will have about approaching mixed 2-sets (a boy and girl)
same basic concepts...whatever context...
 

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CaptainJ said:
Haha. That's brilliant, I'll add it to the repertoire and see if I can get the balls to try it.
Haha agreed :p

btw this movie is pretty damn genius so far lmao
 

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yes... that movie hit a few things we see on here. "lunch dates are weak" etc.
 

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yes... that movie hit a few things we see on here. "lunch dates are weak" etc.
 
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