"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What if I am just socially dumb? and have low EQ?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
GotED?
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- Join circles surrounding your personal hobbies (www.meetup.com)
- Have opportunity to do public speaking in small proportions
- Be realistic about who you are and going after women who are on your own level (trying for women above you will destroy your self-esteem through rejection and they manipulating you into Oneitis-ville)
- Find a woman who accepts you and your difficulties, and you accept hers.
- You can still work on yourself to become the highest potential. If you do nothing, you get nothing.
Good luck.
Exodus
Assuming you're not like seriously mentally deficient, if you do have a low IQ it's not necessarily a big deal for picking up women. If you're street smart that is more advantageous than being book smart and good at solving puzzles.
If you're just socially awkward, you need to get experience and positive reinforcement. You get this with lots and lots of practice. Push yourself out of your comfort zone every day by doing at least one social thing you're afraid of.
