What if a girl you are getting to know asks you for favors?

[summersky]

Inspired by my latest thread I really would like to know your opinions on this subject.

By a girl you are getting to know I mean someone you texted or talked on the phone but never met. By favors I mean not a very small thing but something that requires a bit of work. In my case it was translating some documents for her.

Is this a good or a bad sign? Does that mean she is attracted to you or is this a sh1t-test or manipulation tactic? Would a girl who is really attracted to you ask you for favors so early on?

How would you handle a situation like this? If you say no or ask for something in return, she might see you as the bad guy who didn't help her? If you say yes she might see you as some beta chump who is doing favors without getting something back?

I would be happy about every opinion!

 

[Dr.Suave]

A girl you never met asking for big favors is a red flag. Stay away from her.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Inspired by my latest thread I really would like to know your opinions on this subject.

By a girl you are getting to know I mean someone you texted or talked on the phone but never met. By favors I mean not a very small thing but something that requires a bit of work. In my case it was translating some documents for her.

Is this a good or a bad sign? Does that mean she is attracted to you or is this a sh1t-test or manipulation tactic? Would a girl who is really attracted to you ask you for favors so early on?

How would you handle a situation like this? If you say no or ask for something in return, she might see you as the bad guy who didn't help her? If you say yes she might see you as some beta chump who is doing favors without getting something back?

I would be happy about every opinion!

Why would someone do labor intensive favors for strangers?

Her request is nervy.

 

[EyeBRollin]

No favors for women that are not your girlfriend, fiancé, wife, mother, sister, daughter, aunt, or niece.

The only exception is a professional related, job relevant favor for a female colleague. Even those you may decline at your discretion.

 

[SW15]

No favors for women that are not your girlfriend, fiancé, wife, mother, sister, daughter, aunt, or niece.

The only exception is a professional related, job relevant favor for a female colleague. Even those you may decline at your discretion.

Agree.

Don't be one of these guys....

Genius Woman Uses Tinder to Get Guys to Dig Her Car Out

But does she dig them after they dig out her car?

time.com

 

[Robert28]

This is just my experience but every girl that’s ever been interested in me has never asked me for a damn thing. On the flip side the ones that always had some favor to ask were never into me more than a friend or acquaintance. Women will always try to get girlfriend benefits without being your girlfriend though.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

By a girl you are getting to know I mean someone you texted or talked on the phone but never met. By favors I mean not a very small thing but something that requires a bit of work. In my case it was translating some documents for her.

Translating documents is no big deal (fairly low effort for me), but I would tell her to come over in person with the papers. I would not do it over the phone, I get paid to do translation work.

Is this a good or a bad sign? Does that mean she is attracted to you or is this a sh1t-test or manipulation tactic? Would a girl who is really attracted to you ask you for favors so early on?

It is a congruency test, except that the congruence is that she thinks she can get you to do things for her. Doesn't mean she wants to bone you.

Another thing is when she asks for money for gas or an airplane ticket, that's a scammer.

How would you handle a situation like this? If you say no or ask for something in return, she might see you as the bad guy who didn't help her? If you say yes she might see you as some beta chump who is doing favors without getting something back?

So what? I see asking favours from strangers is inappropriate / manipulative behaviour, so IDGAF what she thinks about it. Better that she considers me a 'bad guy' than 'provider/handyman'.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Wasn't this answered in your last thread? Why create a new one to discuss it again?

Girl I barely know asked for help then went NC

Met this girl through online dating. We had a few conversations on the phone: Deep, long conversations about all kind of things. We were planing to go on a date and made up a day and time. Few days before the date she texted me and asked for help, she wanted me to translate a few things for her...

www.sosuave.net

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Wasn't this answered in your last thread? Why create a new one to discuss it again?

Girl I barely know asked for help then went NC

Met this girl through online dating. We had a few conversations on the phone: Deep, long conversations about all kind of things. We were planing to go on a date and made up a day and time. Few days before the date she texted me and asked for help, she wanted me to translate a few things for her...

www.sosuave.net

Sometimes you have to repeat yourself a lot before the message lands.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Inspired by my latest thread I really would like to know your opinions on this subject.

By a girl you are getting to know I mean someone you texted or talked on the phone but never met. By favors I mean not a very small thing but something that requires a bit of work. In my case it was translating some documents for her.

Is this a good or a bad sign? Does that mean she is attracted to you or is this a sh1t-test or manipulation tactic? Would a girl who is really attracted to you ask you for favors so early on?

How would you handle a situation like this? If you say no or ask for something in return, she might see you as the bad guy who didn't help her? If you say yes she might see you as some beta chump who is doing favors without getting something back?

I would be happy about every opinion!

It means you are spending way too much time fixating on a woman you haven't met and are acting like a prototypical "nice guy" that is going to get you absolutely nowhere sexually except frustrated and friend zoned.

Stop "getting to know them" over the phone. Do that in person ASAP once you start messaging/talking to them.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

A girl you never met asking for big favors is a red flag. Stay away from her.

IMO it should be a sign that OP is portraying himself in a way that a woman sees the opportunity to use him.

This is the type of feedback that is very useful if OP actually wants to learn from his mistakes and stop this type of behaviour from happening.

It's happening because he is encouraging it to happen.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Personally, I don't date women unless they ask me to translate papers and change their oil, otherwise I won't think they're serious.

 

[The Duke]

I once had a girl ask me to come fix her car after I had fuhked her a few times. I told her sorry, I'm busy. I never called her again. Biatch thought I was a free mobile mechanic. Hell no.

Had another one ask me to hang a tv on the wall. I had been out with her twice, taken her to dinner, but no sex. I cut her off after that.

Get some damn standards.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Had another one ask me to hang a tv on the wall. I had been out with her twice, taken her to dinner, but no sex. I cut her off after that.

I had a girl I never met before asking me to tie her up and suspend her from the beam over my bed. The nerve some of these women have...

Any halfway capable men will get women asking for favours. It's up to you whether you want to be used like that, personally my time is too precious to waste on freeloaders. Like bikers say, 'Gas, Grass or Ass, nobody rides for free'.

 

[manfrombelow]

No favors for women that are not your girlfriend, fiancé, wife, mother, sister, daughter, aunt, or niece.

The only exception is a professional related, job relevant favor for a female colleague. Even those you may decline at your discretion.

Simply THIS.

Let me tell you this: A few months ago, I banged this pilates teacher, and the moment she asked me to buy her a handbag, I dropped her.

To be exact, the convo went on sth like this:

Chick: "Hey buy me this"
Me: "Wow the pricetag's a bit high"
Chick: "Jeez it's only 200 bucks"

I thought to myself, b!tch, I ain't your ATM, if it's "only 200 bucks", why the fvck don't you buy it yourself? So I just deleted her right off of my contact list, and moved the fvck on. She didn't bother to contact me ever since.

So yeah, you don't owe b!tches anything.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I will parrot what another poster said, women who sincerely like you will actively do YOU favors with no expectation of reciprocity.

 

[Macadellic]

She is a low value woman child

 

[Killakittie]

I read through your first sentence.

The answer is NO.
That is simping. Stop.

 

[Serenity]

How would you handle a situation like this? If you say no or ask for something in return, she might see you as the bad guy who didn't help her? If you say yes she might see you as some beta chump who is doing favors without getting something back?

Third option: Say nothing, it will speak volumes about what you think of it.

Your questions seems focused on how she will see you. That's really secondary to what you think of her. You haven't even met her and she's already asking favors? That would definitely be overstepping my boundaries, who cares what she thinks of you?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Is this a good or a bad sign? Does that mean she is attracted to you or is this a sh1t-test or manipulation tactic? Would a girl who is really attracted to you ask you for favors so early on?

No offence man but you are 37 years old and you are asking this question? You must have led a very sheltered life. How could it ever be a good sign when a person you are not close with is asking you for money or favours?