She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Because it doesn't affect just them.Quiksilver said:I don't know why people think they should control what their neighbors and strangers do on their free time.
I have yet to see a convincing anti-marijuana argument which withstands detailed nuanced dissection. As for your statement, 45% of the general population support legalization of casual recreational use but less than or about 10% of the population are stoners, so obviously there is a wide discrepancy.Ease said:I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I've never used MJ, and further, I've never been part of a social circle where use was common. I'm for legalizing just about everything including this on basic moral grounds so now you can't ever say this again, right?Ease said:I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
Julius_Seizeher said:As a Libertarian, I think all drugs should be outlawed, for the simple fact that no government of free men has the right to tell them what they can and cannot put in their body. Drug laws are big brother telling you how to live, and it is bullsh!t.
Of course, legalizing hardcore drugs like coke, meth, and opiates seems like a recipe for destruction. But I say, why do people even try drugs in the first place? Because they want to be rebels, drugs are more of a petty narcissistic pursuit than a physical one. But if you legalize drugs, suddenly it isn't cool and rebellious anymore, and you're just a loser snorting powder up your nose. I believe that for this fact, drug use in this country would abate dramatically if drugs were legalized.
highconscienceness said:Weed my friend makes your head work better, left and right side work together more naturally. You don't get dumber from weed, you get wiser.
Ease:
I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
Really? How is that a valid argument to criminalize possession and usage of a substance? There needs to be an element of moral turpitude, "conduct that is considered contrary to community standards of justice, honesty or good morals;" an "act of baseness, vileness or depravity in the private and social duties which a man owes to his fellowmen, or to society in general, contrary to the accepted and customary rule of right and duty between man and man." Marijuana doesn't.San Jose California:
Haha, same here. Edit: Oops I thought you said a convincing pro argument by a USER, I would totally agree with that. The drug makes you UNPRODUCTIVE, no matter WHAT, as long as you take it. The only people it's actually useful for is old ladies whose husband just died and they need to think about something else.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Newsflash:Because it doesn't affect just them.
I HATE the smell of marijuana.
I dislike the smell of car exhaust and freshly paved road. Lets ban cars and roads!
If it were to be legal people would be smoking it out in public. I can't imagine how bad it would be on my college campus.
No worse than it is now with cigarettes. Cigarettes are more harmful than marijuana and they are legal. I do not like the smell, however I respect personal liberties so I put up with it.
The number of cases of people driving under the influence (high) would go up which would increase the number of people hurt and killed in accidents.
As evidenced above, this is incorrect.
Frankly I can't see any way that legalizing MJ can benefit society.
I can't see any way that television, online forums, or free time benefits society. So lets ban them, okay?
Rather than legalizing it, I'd actually push to keep it illegal and make cigarettes illegal as well.
Great idea. Let's ban free speech while we're at it. In fact, let's ban all forms of creativity and give tax deductions to those who conform to your will. Let's ban all forms of recreation to make people more productive, to benefit society.
I still await your response to post #16.San Jose California:
I'm saying that all the wise things anyone has said, because of weed, are philosophical.
Help! I'm falling down a slope! It's too slippery for me to get my balance!Quiksilver said:Great idea. Let's ban free speech while we're at it. In fact, let's ban all forms of creativity and give tax deductions to those who conform to your will. Let's ban all forms of recreation to make people more productive, to benefit society.
Wait until "society" starts banning things you enjoy, we surely won't speak out in your defense.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.