You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Because it doesn't affect just them.Quiksilver said:I don't know why people think they should control what their neighbors and strangers do on their free time.
I have yet to see a convincing anti-marijuana argument which withstands detailed nuanced dissection. As for your statement, 45% of the general population support legalization of casual recreational use but less than or about 10% of the population are stoners, so obviously there is a wide discrepancy.Ease said:I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I've never used MJ, and further, I've never been part of a social circle where use was common. I'm for legalizing just about everything including this on basic moral grounds so now you can't ever say this again, right?Ease said:I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
Julius_Seizeher said:As a Libertarian, I think all drugs should be outlawed, for the simple fact that no government of free men has the right to tell them what they can and cannot put in their body. Drug laws are big brother telling you how to live, and it is bullsh!t.
Of course, legalizing hardcore drugs like coke, meth, and opiates seems like a recipe for destruction. But I say, why do people even try drugs in the first place? Because they want to be rebels, drugs are more of a petty narcissistic pursuit than a physical one. But if you legalize drugs, suddenly it isn't cool and rebellious anymore, and you're just a loser snorting powder up your nose. I believe that for this fact, drug use in this country would abate dramatically if drugs were legalized.
highconscienceness said:Weed my friend makes your head work better, left and right side work together more naturally. You don't get dumber from weed, you get wiser.
Ease:
I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
Really? How is that a valid argument to criminalize possession and usage of a substance? There needs to be an element of moral turpitude, "conduct that is considered contrary to community standards of justice, honesty or good morals;" an "act of baseness, vileness or depravity in the private and social duties which a man owes to his fellowmen, or to society in general, contrary to the accepted and customary rule of right and duty between man and man." Marijuana doesn't.San Jose California:
Haha, same here. Edit: Oops I thought you said a convincing pro argument by a USER, I would totally agree with that. The drug makes you UNPRODUCTIVE, no matter WHAT, as long as you take it. The only people it's actually useful for is old ladies whose husband just died and they need to think about something else.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Newsflash:Because it doesn't affect just them.
I HATE the smell of marijuana.
I dislike the smell of car exhaust and freshly paved road. Lets ban cars and roads!
If it were to be legal people would be smoking it out in public. I can't imagine how bad it would be on my college campus.
No worse than it is now with cigarettes. Cigarettes are more harmful than marijuana and they are legal. I do not like the smell, however I respect personal liberties so I put up with it.
The number of cases of people driving under the influence (high) would go up which would increase the number of people hurt and killed in accidents.
As evidenced above, this is incorrect.
Frankly I can't see any way that legalizing MJ can benefit society.
I can't see any way that television, online forums, or free time benefits society. So lets ban them, okay?
Rather than legalizing it, I'd actually push to keep it illegal and make cigarettes illegal as well.
Great idea. Let's ban free speech while we're at it. In fact, let's ban all forms of creativity and give tax deductions to those who conform to your will. Let's ban all forms of recreation to make people more productive, to benefit society.
I still await your response to post #16.San Jose California:
I'm saying that all the wise things anyone has said, because of weed, are philosophical.
Help! I'm falling down a slope! It's too slippery for me to get my balance!Quiksilver said:Great idea. Let's ban free speech while we're at it. In fact, let's ban all forms of creativity and give tax deductions to those who conform to your will. Let's ban all forms of recreation to make people more productive, to benefit society.
Wait until "society" starts banning things you enjoy, we surely won't speak out in your defense.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.