You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Because it doesn't affect just them.Quiksilver said:I don't know why people think they should control what their neighbors and strangers do on their free time.
I have yet to see a convincing anti-marijuana argument which withstands detailed nuanced dissection. As for your statement, 45% of the general population support legalization of casual recreational use but less than or about 10% of the population are stoners, so obviously there is a wide discrepancy.Ease said:I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I've never used MJ, and further, I've never been part of a social circle where use was common. I'm for legalizing just about everything including this on basic moral grounds so now you can't ever say this again, right?Ease said:I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
Julius_Seizeher said:As a Libertarian, I think all drugs should be outlawed, for the simple fact that no government of free men has the right to tell them what they can and cannot put in their body. Drug laws are big brother telling you how to live, and it is bullsh!t.
Of course, legalizing hardcore drugs like coke, meth, and opiates seems like a recipe for destruction. But I say, why do people even try drugs in the first place? Because they want to be rebels, drugs are more of a petty narcissistic pursuit than a physical one. But if you legalize drugs, suddenly it isn't cool and rebellious anymore, and you're just a loser snorting powder up your nose. I believe that for this fact, drug use in this country would abate dramatically if drugs were legalized.
highconscienceness said:Weed my friend makes your head work better, left and right side work together more naturally. You don't get dumber from weed, you get wiser.
Ease:
I have yet to see a convincing pro-argument for legalizing by a non-user.
Really? How is that a valid argument to criminalize possession and usage of a substance? There needs to be an element of moral turpitude, "conduct that is considered contrary to community standards of justice, honesty or good morals;" an "act of baseness, vileness or depravity in the private and social duties which a man owes to his fellowmen, or to society in general, contrary to the accepted and customary rule of right and duty between man and man." Marijuana doesn't.San Jose California:
Haha, same here. Edit: Oops I thought you said a convincing pro argument by a USER, I would totally agree with that. The drug makes you UNPRODUCTIVE, no matter WHAT, as long as you take it. The only people it's actually useful for is old ladies whose husband just died and they need to think about something else.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Newsflash:Because it doesn't affect just them.
I HATE the smell of marijuana.
I dislike the smell of car exhaust and freshly paved road. Lets ban cars and roads!
If it were to be legal people would be smoking it out in public. I can't imagine how bad it would be on my college campus.
No worse than it is now with cigarettes. Cigarettes are more harmful than marijuana and they are legal. I do not like the smell, however I respect personal liberties so I put up with it.
The number of cases of people driving under the influence (high) would go up which would increase the number of people hurt and killed in accidents.
As evidenced above, this is incorrect.
Frankly I can't see any way that legalizing MJ can benefit society.
I can't see any way that television, online forums, or free time benefits society. So lets ban them, okay?
Rather than legalizing it, I'd actually push to keep it illegal and make cigarettes illegal as well.
Great idea. Let's ban free speech while we're at it. In fact, let's ban all forms of creativity and give tax deductions to those who conform to your will. Let's ban all forms of recreation to make people more productive, to benefit society.
I still await your response to post #16.San Jose California:
I'm saying that all the wise things anyone has said, because of weed, are philosophical.
Help! I'm falling down a slope! It's too slippery for me to get my balance!Quiksilver said:Great idea. Let's ban free speech while we're at it. In fact, let's ban all forms of creativity and give tax deductions to those who conform to your will. Let's ban all forms of recreation to make people more productive, to benefit society.
Wait until "society" starts banning things you enjoy, we surely won't speak out in your defense.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.