3 months of talking abt how you can't assemble a simple contraption and you dare come here talking abt nonsense?
You better get that machine up by hook or by crook and stop wasting people's time.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What happened to sazc?
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You better get that machine up by hook or by crook and stop wasting people's time.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Yes, you make a good point, @Spaz .
@biggoal , in another thread I even offered to download the manual and to give you personal guidance, but you ignored my offer to help.
Your excuse seems to be time, and the need to work on taxes. That's a BS excuse. Do you know how I know? Because you have plenty of time to post here on SoSuave.
Tomorrow morning, why don't you walk into that room, look at that monument to your fear and habit of avoidance, pick up that manual and finish the job? Men should know how to build and use tools. This kind of work builds confidence and self-reliance.
RickTheToad
Moderator
@biggoal needs a temp. timeout like @bigdave17. The rest will help him refocus his priorities. He's like on SS 24/7.
RickTheToad
Moderator
Brown hair?
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
Lol @RickTheToad brown hair?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You might be right abt his fears and avoidance issues.
Nah. It's just time to chg tactics.
Banning never does work because it's just abt shoving a problem elsewhere.
A man comes here for help and help we shall.
Ignore all his attempts or posts unless it's about his gym equipment.
Refocus where its important.
RickTheToad
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Going to have to respectfully disagree with you dude. The boy needs a break. He doesn't listen. A person who doesn't listen cannot be helped.
RickTheToad
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I think it's brown or dirty blond. One of them.
Black Widow Void
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That makes two of us. I PM'ed him and volunteered to speak to him by phone and his PM response was that I was too old. This seems to be a case of a horse being led to water, but not wanting to drink.
Normally, I'd wager that with age comes wisdom, but AttackFormation is about half my age and I think the guy is a genius.
There's various methods at our disposal.
An arsenal of it.
For now, you can do ur part by not entertaining him and cutting off all interactions with him unless it's with regards to him getting his gym set up and running.
Be firm.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
@RickTheToad i could imagine a female sending you nude pictures and you say "hey sweet sound system" LOL