"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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*batting eyelashes* with big sweet smile....Thank you my Dear and even more respect because you're an inspector.

I can only imagine the trials and challenges you must meet dealing with things AND people.
Keep up the good work. It is important to public safety, everyone appreciates your attention to detail.
Get a room, you two...:p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Easy now. I'm not that kind of guy. She would have to at least buy me dinner first.

Seriously, though, we should all be complimenting women that are proudly feminine. We should make a point of letting them know that it's a natural and beautiful thing that we find attractive.

Because the media tries 24/7 to convince them that it's not.
In turn, it is easy and far-reaching to compliment a man for his natural masculinity.

There's repercussions such as the accusation of lovebombing but really, even that is a comforting visual image contained in that 'personality disorder' word.

*imagining hearts being sprinkled down the sky from a bomber plane*
 
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In turn, it is easy and far-reaching to compliment a man for his natural masculinity.

There's repercussions such as the accusation of lovebombing but really, even that is a comforting visual image contained in that 'personality disorder' word.

*imagining hearts being sprinkled down the sky from a bomber plane*
I think that part of being unabashedly femine entails acknowledging your man's masculinity.

But yes, it's an easy thing to do and it means the world to a man, yet most modern women refuse to do it. It's ridiculous.

The media has deluded us to a point where women act like men and vice versa
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think that part of being unabashedly femine entails acknowledging your man's masculinity.

But yes, it's an easy thing to do and it means the world to a man, yet most modern women refuse to do it. It's ridiculous.

The media has deluded us to a point where women act like men and vice versa
Well my Dear, some modern women have no idea how much deep, secret knowledge is available to them once they freely acknowledge and freely admire men with genuine observations and genuine feedback.


It is easy to give love and encouragement and costs nothing.

A woman practising acknowledging, admiring, loving and encouraging men can be restored and replenished by reconnecting with nature and the outdoors.

The Return On (time & effort) Investment is humbling and gracious. Men give women so much!!!! Many sincere thanks.
 
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Well my Dear, some modern women have no idea how much deep, secret knowledge is available to them once they freely acknowledge and freely admire men with genuine observations and genuine feedback.


It is easy to give love and encouragement and costs nothing.

A woman practising acknowledging, admiring, loving and encouraging men can be restored and replenished by reconnecting with nature and the outdoors.

The Return On (time & effort) Investment is humbling and gracious. Men give women so much!!!! Many sincere thanks.
Don't patronize me.

A woman can find her feminity by having children and raising them, and by supporting her man who is the head of the household. This is the natural order of things. Something that has been stolen from us by liberal elites in coastal cities, who are only worried about financial returns.

But yes, nature and the outdoors are nice, too.
 

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Don't patronize me.

A woman can find her feminity by having children and raising them, and by supporting her man who is the head of the household. This is the natural order of things. Something that has been stolen from us by liberal elites in coastal cities, who are only worried about financial returns.

But yes, nature and the outdoors are nice, too.
Thank you for the feedback about appearing patronizing.

I can accept criticism and improve.

Aside: there must be more to regaining femininity than just removing masculinity.

I'm sorry if I insulted or offended. A member months ago wrote about simply not responding directly to posts in order not to aggravate, so I will do that with yours moving forward.
 
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Thank you for the feedback about appearing patronizing.

I can accept criticism and improve.

Aside: there must be more to regaining femininity than just removing masculinity.

I'm sorry if I insulted or offended. A member months ago wrote about simply not responding directly to posts in order not to aggravate, so I will do that with yours moving forward.
You're on a men's website, sweetheart. We challenge each other for sh1ts and giggles.

We don't sit around and tell each other how great the other one is. That would be a women's forum.

Edit - I challenge people for sh1ts and giggles, most men here do it to help other men be better.
 
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Easy now. I'm not that kind of guy. She would have to at least buy me dinner first.

Seriously, though, we should all be complimenting women that are proudly feminine. We should make a point of letting them know that it's a natural and beautiful thing that we find attractive.

Because the media tries 24/7 to convince them that it's not.
One thing I've always noticed is that @Lynx nkaf is always respectful and doesn't stir up drama.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yeah that’s a good one.

I keep telling myself “XYZ task is no big deal.”

Roughly equivalent.
yes, I like that one too Mike....'no big deal'

Sometimes I quote a portion of that Frost poem 'and miles to go before I sleep'
It strangely encourages me(just put in the work and you can rest, kind of thing)
 

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I don’t want to pay someone else to do it.
I can do it better myself…
It ain't gonna fix ,( or build ) itself.
 

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Red Seal Structural Ironworker 2018 on sites since 2008 and Red Seal Welder 2019 in school, shops, factories and sites since 1995

One of these people that took a long time to get her journeyman status(welding almost 25 years) ironworking 10 years before the Certificate of Qualification as they call it here in Canada.

I grandfathered in for the welding and had a real registered apprenticeship between 2016-2018 for the ironworking.

Right now I'm working outside of a mechanical shop. I started as a mechanic last April 2019 hurt my neck pretty good(first serious work injury of my life) and applied for an internal posting for the outdoors position where I'm away from the welding fumes and getting way more healthy exercise than working stationary as a welder/mechanic.

If this steady employment goes tits up then I still have tons of qualifications to get more work. Just heard on the radio today that this province has the lowest unemployment rate in Canada rn.
So although I make only about half of my construction rate, I'm more stable and not moving around every 2-3 months for work. Great opportunity for working on selfdevelopment and it feels good.
where are you
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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