"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What does this mean?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
I'm not quite sure what what she said means, but I know she's interested, but if I had to guess, I'd say she's never met someone who was able escalate things to that point so fast and was just taken a bit by surprise.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Link is here: http://www.directnaturalgame.com/Techniques/kino-escalation-ladder.html
anyways thinks were getting heated up and i was on top of her and i was rubbing her body and got close to the holiest of holies. she gave resistance so i just made a joke and kept hooking up with her with no problem.
second time the same thing happened but i was closer, she said we havnet been going out enough and i said thats fine by me and keep hooking up.
third time was the charm i guess because i got it with no resistance at all for a minute then she made me stop....im pretty sure it was because she was getting even more heated up and things could have gotten out of her hands from there, but thats just my guess.
she told me the line i said in my original post a couple days after it happened
if it means anythin I am pretty sure (95%) she is a virgin, havent asked her though and i havent talked about it at all with her
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
RAPPORT, RAPPORT, RAPPORT, RAPPORT.
Get to know her more, but more importantly she needs to know who YOU ARE. she needs to know that you really care for her and not just another notch on your belt. If she is just a lay, and a virgin. PLease dont lay her because that is some f*ck up ****. It may mean nothing to you, but a girl will never forget.
Makes sense, only, i don't really know how to do that without looking like an total AFC.trd323 said:
now i already thought i established rapport on a few of the phone calls with her and on the couple of dates. i think she thinks i'm a player (in abundance of other girls), so that makes what u said definitely true.
only, i told her i'd be exclusive afterwards....that might have ben AFC in aftersight but we all make mistakes. at least i didnt ask HER to be exclusive
Trust me, I won't. Shes too cool for me to do something like that to her. Plus I'm not one of those fvcked up guys like some people who are out to get vengeance on women because they were slighted bythem in the past.trd323 said:
typical
Master Don Juan
Me thinks you need to learn your own way of seduction and not follow a set routine they don't work.
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Keep on trying.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
do u mean that in escalation or in just talking to her? Because i go by RSD's "being yourself" type deal; no canned lines, all me being confident in myself and funny.typical said:
and i use the dicarlo's ladder just as a guideline because 1) it has a natural flow withs its isolation (imo) and 2) there is always the chance for girls to put in their LMR. i never would have f*** closed on that date, and really, i didnt need to!
i get what your saying though