"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What does "sorry sunshine" mean.

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Was in a shop the other day. Had spoken to this girl before, sometimes flirted with her, today I was asking if they had a particular item that they haven't had in there for a few weeks.

This girl goes into the back to look for what I want and comes out and says sorry "sunshine" we don't have any.

I looked this up on urban dictionary and it says two things, sunshine means a title of someone you like and find attractive OR sunshine is a term for someone that appears openly homosexual.

I can't tell if this women just complemented me or insulted me.

As for overall opinion of this women, she is a bit strange, She is one of these women that I can never read, sometimes it seems she is the nicest person around and other times she is upset about the smallest thing. I wouldn't put it past her to try and insult me or anyone else if she could. You know, for the lols.

Maybe she sees me as not confident in her eyes and she likes to rub it in, or she was trying to be nice to me. I do have a confidence issue where I can act confident on the outside but inside I believe that women are not attracted to me and are trying to insult me.

Anyone else here have women call them "sunshine" and know what it means? Could it be considered an insult?

Thanks for any help.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sometimes men or women simply have their own personal little phrases they use for various things.

She may simply be a goofy chick, an eccentric chick, or a tough grizzled biker chick and with one of these off the wall personality types can come off the wall phrases that don't necessarily equate to disrespect or thinking of you as a homosexual.

So if your gut instinct can't read what the girl's intentions were towards you with a comment personally I'd just ignore it and shake my head.

That is unless some best friend of her's told me something like "oh my gawd she just insulted you sooo bad!" :p
 
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It means the same thing as:
Sorry you
Sorry dude
Sorry mate
Sorry buddy
Sorry fella
Sorry love
Sorry doll
Sorry mister
Sorry honey
Etc.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jhcl4000 said:
Wow, you are REALLY over-analyzing a little word.
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Yes, I do tend to do that a lot. I know it's not good.

Thanks to everyone else for the input. I'm just going to forget about this.
 
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Canadian Catnip said:
Yes, I do tend to do that a lot. I know it's not good.

Thanks to everyone else for the input. I'm just going to forget about this.
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You're a wise man!

Now please remember to stop stressing because it shows insecurity. You also could have made a move. Assume she is attracted. Make the ho say no. Only when that happens you have lost.

Don't be afraid of your own testosterone.
 
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Wow and I thought women over-analyzed everything...

Dumbest thread ever.
 
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"sunshine" and know what it means?
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English isn't your first language I take it.

It's just a way to be cute with you. It's a good thing.


Go out and socialize more often with English speakers and you'll get used to all of this.
 
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It might not mean anything. Sometimes women may address me as "sweetie, dear, hun, etc..." but the fact is it's just their normal way of addressing me or everybody for that matter.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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San Jose California said:
Not necessarily. Certain words matter, like if a girl says sweetie you're screwed.
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No.

I date a girl on and off who calls me "sweetie" all of the time. Of course, she calls every guy sweetie because she's a waitress. It has no meaning, it's just tacked onto sentences now and then.

Don't analyze what a woman says word for word. It's what she does as well as the general themes and subjects she keeps circling around that are important.
 
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ThatMysteriousGuy said:
No.

I date a girl on and off who calls me "sweetie" all of the time. Of course, she calls every guy sweetie because she's a waitress. It has no meaning, it's just tacked onto sentences now and then.

Don't analyze what a woman says word for word. It's what she does as well as the general themes and subjects she keeps circling around that are important.
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Sometimes a girl will use terms of endearment for everybody they meet. Or they're naturally flirty.

The more you overanalyze this simple saying is the more your insecurity shows.
 
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