"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What does "sorry sunshine" mean.

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Was in a shop the other day. Had spoken to this girl before, sometimes flirted with her, today I was asking if they had a particular item that they haven't had in there for a few weeks.

This girl goes into the back to look for what I want and comes out and says sorry "sunshine" we don't have any.

I looked this up on urban dictionary and it says two things, sunshine means a title of someone you like and find attractive OR sunshine is a term for someone that appears openly homosexual.

I can't tell if this women just complemented me or insulted me.

As for overall opinion of this women, she is a bit strange, She is one of these women that I can never read, sometimes it seems she is the nicest person around and other times she is upset about the smallest thing. I wouldn't put it past her to try and insult me or anyone else if she could. You know, for the lols.

Maybe she sees me as not confident in her eyes and she likes to rub it in, or she was trying to be nice to me. I do have a confidence issue where I can act confident on the outside but inside I believe that women are not attracted to me and are trying to insult me.

Anyone else here have women call them "sunshine" and know what it means? Could it be considered an insult?

Thanks for any help.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sometimes men or women simply have their own personal little phrases they use for various things.

She may simply be a goofy chick, an eccentric chick, or a tough grizzled biker chick and with one of these off the wall personality types can come off the wall phrases that don't necessarily equate to disrespect or thinking of you as a homosexual.

So if your gut instinct can't read what the girl's intentions were towards you with a comment personally I'd just ignore it and shake my head.

That is unless some best friend of her's told me something like "oh my gawd she just insulted you sooo bad!" :p
 
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It means the same thing as:
Sorry you
Sorry dude
Sorry mate
Sorry buddy
Sorry fella
Sorry love
Sorry doll
Sorry mister
Sorry honey
Etc.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jhcl4000 said:
Wow, you are REALLY over-analyzing a little word.
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Yes, I do tend to do that a lot. I know it's not good.

Thanks to everyone else for the input. I'm just going to forget about this.
 
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Canadian Catnip said:
Yes, I do tend to do that a lot. I know it's not good.

Thanks to everyone else for the input. I'm just going to forget about this.
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You're a wise man!

Now please remember to stop stressing because it shows insecurity. You also could have made a move. Assume she is attracted. Make the ho say no. Only when that happens you have lost.

Don't be afraid of your own testosterone.
 
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Wow and I thought women over-analyzed everything...

Dumbest thread ever.
 
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"sunshine" and know what it means?
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English isn't your first language I take it.

It's just a way to be cute with you. It's a good thing.


Go out and socialize more often with English speakers and you'll get used to all of this.
 
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It might not mean anything. Sometimes women may address me as "sweetie, dear, hun, etc..." but the fact is it's just their normal way of addressing me or everybody for that matter.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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San Jose California said:
Not necessarily. Certain words matter, like if a girl says sweetie you're screwed.
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No.

I date a girl on and off who calls me "sweetie" all of the time. Of course, she calls every guy sweetie because she's a waitress. It has no meaning, it's just tacked onto sentences now and then.

Don't analyze what a woman says word for word. It's what she does as well as the general themes and subjects she keeps circling around that are important.
 
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ThatMysteriousGuy said:
No.

I date a girl on and off who calls me "sweetie" all of the time. Of course, she calls every guy sweetie because she's a waitress. It has no meaning, it's just tacked onto sentences now and then.

Don't analyze what a woman says word for word. It's what she does as well as the general themes and subjects she keeps circling around that are important.
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Sometimes a girl will use terms of endearment for everybody they meet. Or they're naturally flirty.

The more you overanalyze this simple saying is the more your insecurity shows.
 
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