"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What does "sorry sunshine" mean.

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Was in a shop the other day. Had spoken to this girl before, sometimes flirted with her, today I was asking if they had a particular item that they haven't had in there for a few weeks.

This girl goes into the back to look for what I want and comes out and says sorry "sunshine" we don't have any.

I looked this up on urban dictionary and it says two things, sunshine means a title of someone you like and find attractive OR sunshine is a term for someone that appears openly homosexual.

I can't tell if this women just complemented me or insulted me.

As for overall opinion of this women, she is a bit strange, She is one of these women that I can never read, sometimes it seems she is the nicest person around and other times she is upset about the smallest thing. I wouldn't put it past her to try and insult me or anyone else if she could. You know, for the lols.

Maybe she sees me as not confident in her eyes and she likes to rub it in, or she was trying to be nice to me. I do have a confidence issue where I can act confident on the outside but inside I believe that women are not attracted to me and are trying to insult me.

Anyone else here have women call them "sunshine" and know what it means? Could it be considered an insult?

Thanks for any help.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sometimes men or women simply have their own personal little phrases they use for various things.

She may simply be a goofy chick, an eccentric chick, or a tough grizzled biker chick and with one of these off the wall personality types can come off the wall phrases that don't necessarily equate to disrespect or thinking of you as a homosexual.

So if your gut instinct can't read what the girl's intentions were towards you with a comment personally I'd just ignore it and shake my head.

That is unless some best friend of her's told me something like "oh my gawd she just insulted you sooo bad!" :p
 
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It means the same thing as:
Sorry you
Sorry dude
Sorry mate
Sorry buddy
Sorry fella
Sorry love
Sorry doll
Sorry mister
Sorry honey
Etc.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Jhcl4000 said:
Wow, you are REALLY over-analyzing a little word.
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Yes, I do tend to do that a lot. I know it's not good.

Thanks to everyone else for the input. I'm just going to forget about this.
 
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Canadian Catnip said:
Yes, I do tend to do that a lot. I know it's not good.

Thanks to everyone else for the input. I'm just going to forget about this.
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You're a wise man!

Now please remember to stop stressing because it shows insecurity. You also could have made a move. Assume she is attracted. Make the ho say no. Only when that happens you have lost.

Don't be afraid of your own testosterone.
 
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Wow and I thought women over-analyzed everything...

Dumbest thread ever.
 
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"sunshine" and know what it means?
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English isn't your first language I take it.

It's just a way to be cute with you. It's a good thing.


Go out and socialize more often with English speakers and you'll get used to all of this.
 
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It might not mean anything. Sometimes women may address me as "sweetie, dear, hun, etc..." but the fact is it's just their normal way of addressing me or everybody for that matter.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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San Jose California said:
Not necessarily. Certain words matter, like if a girl says sweetie you're screwed.
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No.

I date a girl on and off who calls me "sweetie" all of the time. Of course, she calls every guy sweetie because she's a waitress. It has no meaning, it's just tacked onto sentences now and then.

Don't analyze what a woman says word for word. It's what she does as well as the general themes and subjects she keeps circling around that are important.
 
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ThatMysteriousGuy said:
No.

I date a girl on and off who calls me "sweetie" all of the time. Of course, she calls every guy sweetie because she's a waitress. It has no meaning, it's just tacked onto sentences now and then.

Don't analyze what a woman says word for word. It's what she does as well as the general themes and subjects she keeps circling around that are important.
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Sometimes a girl will use terms of endearment for everybody they meet. Or they're naturally flirty.

The more you overanalyze this simple saying is the more your insecurity shows.
 
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