"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What does nervousness mean?

lotik

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I'm pretty good at reading people and can tell when someone acts differently around me, but what does it mean when a woman acts nervous or "different" when around you?

When I was in high school, just seeing my crush or someone I had the hots for made me nervous.

What, in general can be said about women that act nervous around you when you're perfectly composed and acting normally?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well, I'm a well kept and good looking guy; very fit, friendly and people don't have problems warming up to me. We work in the same department, but in different areas. She'll occasionally come around to chat, but it seems like when she does, she carries around a little bit of nervousness with her that I don't see when she talks to others.

I'm not interested in her, but just wondering why the strange bahavior?
 

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I'm not interested in her, but just wondering why the strange bahavior? [/B][/QUOTE]

i lived the same damn thing with a girl at school when she was around me she didnt act as if she was around her friends...
 

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She might be into you or rumors around that you're a serial rapist.

If you're not a serial rapist, then she likes you a tad and wants to spend more time with you.

Does she loosen up or wht? Or is she still all tense at the end? I mean...not at the VERY end, but like during your talks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Oh yeah. She loosens up as we talk further and gets a lot more comfortable. But it seems like there's always an initial moment of slight awkwardness.

You know what I mean? I'm sure I'm not the only one that can pick up on these little things? Anyone?
 

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She goes out of her way to chat with you

She is nervous when initiating conversation

She acts different around you

The magic eight ball says that she likes you
 
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Originally posted by Kaine
She goes out of her way to chat with you

She is nervous when initiating conversation

She acts different around you

The magic eight ball says that she likes you
only the magic 8 ball coulda told him that.
 
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