"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What does nervousness mean?

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I'm pretty good at reading people and can tell when someone acts differently around me, but what does it mean when a woman acts nervous or "different" when around you?

When I was in high school, just seeing my crush or someone I had the hots for made me nervous.

What, in general can be said about women that act nervous around you when you're perfectly composed and acting normally?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well, I'm a well kept and good looking guy; very fit, friendly and people don't have problems warming up to me. We work in the same department, but in different areas. She'll occasionally come around to chat, but it seems like when she does, she carries around a little bit of nervousness with her that I don't see when she talks to others.

I'm not interested in her, but just wondering why the strange bahavior?
 

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I'm not interested in her, but just wondering why the strange bahavior? [/B][/QUOTE]

i lived the same damn thing with a girl at school when she was around me she didnt act as if she was around her friends...
 

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She might be into you or rumors around that you're a serial rapist.

If you're not a serial rapist, then she likes you a tad and wants to spend more time with you.

Does she loosen up or wht? Or is she still all tense at the end? I mean...not at the VERY end, but like during your talks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Oh yeah. She loosens up as we talk further and gets a lot more comfortable. But it seems like there's always an initial moment of slight awkwardness.

You know what I mean? I'm sure I'm not the only one that can pick up on these little things? Anyone?
 

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She goes out of her way to chat with you

She is nervous when initiating conversation

She acts different around you

The magic eight ball says that she likes you
 
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Originally posted by Kaine
She goes out of her way to chat with you

She is nervous when initiating conversation

She acts different around you

The magic eight ball says that she likes you
only the magic 8 ball coulda told him that.
 
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