"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What does it take?

WaRpEd

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I would like to ask a question as a "thinker" more so then anything. Something for you to chew over and seriously think about.

"What does it take to be a man?"

That's the question I propose, I look forward to reading the reactions.

Until next time. :wave:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Poonani Maker

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You must be fearful, but not scared, wherever you go. It's like swimming long distances alongside big great white sharks. You're too focused on the mission to notice the sharks which could easily have you as diner if they wanted to.
 

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It's often said that men aren't as emotional as women. I disagree. We just are and/or have to be better at controlling it.

Having said that, being a man is about "controlling the inner demons" i.e. fears, negative emotions/thinking. Plus, it's about completing your mission i.e. what needs to be done, in spite of the cr*p that is in our heads at the time.

I agree with Poonani though. We should never seek to ELIMINATE fears. That's why I said we should control it instead. Whether you are dealing sharks, electricity, or anything potentially dangerous, some fear is essential and should be converted to a healthy caution.
 

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To hide your emotions and get the job done, To strive to work hard and be the best at what you do.

To accept the fact that you are a prize even though women can do without you. That you really are not a prize...but believe that you are to stay afloat.

To build a brick wall around your soul as you feel it slowly crumbling down...continue to lay up your bricks as it crumbles.

There is a reason why there is a book called "Men cry in the dark"..it is what we are supposed to do........:(
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mike32ct

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Well said. +1

women haze said:
To hide your emotions and get the job done, To strive to work hard and be the best at what you do.

To accept the fact that you are a prize even though women can do without you. That you really are not a prize...but believe that you are to stay afloat.

To build a brick wall around your soul as you feel it slowly crumbling down...continue to lay up your bricks as it crumbles.

There is a reason why there is a book called "Men cry in the dark"..it is what we are supposed to do........:(
 

WaRpEd

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Awesome answers.

Replace fear with respect.
 

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A willingness to consistently face my challenges, to continue on my path regardless of fear or doubt, and to live my life in an ethical and conscious way.
 
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