"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What does it take?

WaRpEd

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I would like to ask a question as a "thinker" more so then anything. Something for you to chew over and seriously think about.

"What does it take to be a man?"

That's the question I propose, I look forward to reading the reactions.

Until next time. :wave:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Poonani Maker

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You must be fearful, but not scared, wherever you go. It's like swimming long distances alongside big great white sharks. You're too focused on the mission to notice the sharks which could easily have you as diner if they wanted to.
 

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It's often said that men aren't as emotional as women. I disagree. We just are and/or have to be better at controlling it.

Having said that, being a man is about "controlling the inner demons" i.e. fears, negative emotions/thinking. Plus, it's about completing your mission i.e. what needs to be done, in spite of the cr*p that is in our heads at the time.

I agree with Poonani though. We should never seek to ELIMINATE fears. That's why I said we should control it instead. Whether you are dealing sharks, electricity, or anything potentially dangerous, some fear is essential and should be converted to a healthy caution.
 

women haze

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To hide your emotions and get the job done, To strive to work hard and be the best at what you do.

To accept the fact that you are a prize even though women can do without you. That you really are not a prize...but believe that you are to stay afloat.

To build a brick wall around your soul as you feel it slowly crumbling down...continue to lay up your bricks as it crumbles.

There is a reason why there is a book called "Men cry in the dark"..it is what we are supposed to do........:(
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mike32ct

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Well said. +1

women haze said:
To hide your emotions and get the job done, To strive to work hard and be the best at what you do.

To accept the fact that you are a prize even though women can do without you. That you really are not a prize...but believe that you are to stay afloat.

To build a brick wall around your soul as you feel it slowly crumbling down...continue to lay up your bricks as it crumbles.

There is a reason why there is a book called "Men cry in the dark"..it is what we are supposed to do........:(
 

WaRpEd

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Awesome answers.

Replace fear with respect.
 

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A willingness to consistently face my challenges, to continue on my path regardless of fear or doubt, and to live my life in an ethical and conscious way.
 
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