"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What does it mean when she cries during sex?
- Thread starter El Payaso
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
AttackFormation
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Thinks of her ex she still wants instead of you and cries that she lost him.
Serious emotional issues from a terrible event related to sex in the past.
That's my guess. Take your pick.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Oh yeah, and make sure that you're in the right hole too. Unless she wants it elsewhere of course....
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Roober
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My current plate gets this little giggle and just let's completely loose when she climaxes, the giggles and body jerking is probably my favorite reaction. That is the usual reaction I get, which I would think is ideal
El Payaso
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Could you elaborate on both?
wifehunter
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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hockeyfreak79
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I think that's the only time I've experienced this.
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My first fiancee would sometimes cry during sex. She didn't like sex, at least not with me. She generally wouldn't tell me if it hurt, or she just couldn't stand being fvcked by me, although I had her tell me a few times that it hurt. It also could have been both. Mind you, I was an AFC at this time. She was also sexually abused as a child.
I've had other women cry because they're feeling extremely in love with me. They'd exclaim things like "I love you sooo much". They would also hold me and kiss me after we we're done while they're bawling their eyes out.
backseatjuan
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
She might not like being "invaded". So you could be "small" and by her knowing she took it on lets her feel violated.
backseatjuan
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Cuz those are women, we afraid of them! As long as they fvck it's cool, no matter what we have to sacrifice for it. So why ask bold questions??????????????????????????????
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.