I_Only_Live_Once
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she's a really good looking girl, and she invites me out...but it's never one on one...it's always to do group things...and she encourages me to bring people as well.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
what does it mean if a girl only wants to hang out with you in a group?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
she is not comfortable hanging out with you alone. Work on attraction and comfort make these issues your focus. Come up with some ideas on things you could do alone. Don't go hang out with her friends you don't want to become a part of your world you want her to become a part of your world. Without you giving attraction and comfort for HER to feel about YOU, she won't regard you as man enough. Thats just my 2 cents though.
she is not comfortable hanging out with you alone. Work on attraction and comfort make these issues your focus. Come up with some ideas on things you could do alone. Don't go hang out with her friends you don't want to become a part of your world you want her to become a part of your world. Without you giving attraction and comfort for HER to feel about YOU, she won't regard you as man enough. Thats just my 2 cents though. You may, however, want to give us more detail so we could be more direct with our answers...
I_Only_Live_Once
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I met her in University. We've known each other for a few years now. We keep in touch but we don't hang out that much except for a few times a year at these group party things. We know each other fairly well.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Midnight's post is mind boggling to me, but I'm going to guess that if you make yourself attractive and make her feel comfortable she will see you in a different light.
That kind of talk is what Millions of Nice Guys do all the time. They dress nice, talk nice, and able to provide all the worldly effects of a boyfriend without the sex.
The truth is however, she may either see you as a friend, uncomfortable being alone with you (if a girl is really interested in you, she'd try to spend as much time with you one on one.) , or other ulterior motives which do not parallel themselves with her "wanting to be your girlfriend."
That kind of talk is what Millions of Nice Guys do all the time. They dress nice, talk nice, and able to provide all the worldly effects of a boyfriend without the sex.
The truth is however, she may either see you as a friend, uncomfortable being alone with you (if a girl is really interested in you, she'd try to spend as much time with you one on one.) , or other ulterior motives which do not parallel themselves with her "wanting to be your girlfriend."