I_Only_Live_Once
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she's a really good looking girl, and she invites me out...but it's never one on one...it's always to do group things...and she encourages me to bring people as well.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
what does it mean if a girl only wants to hang out with you in a group?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
she is not comfortable hanging out with you alone. Work on attraction and comfort make these issues your focus. Come up with some ideas on things you could do alone. Don't go hang out with her friends you don't want to become a part of your world you want her to become a part of your world. Without you giving attraction and comfort for HER to feel about YOU, she won't regard you as man enough. Thats just my 2 cents though.
she is not comfortable hanging out with you alone. Work on attraction and comfort make these issues your focus. Come up with some ideas on things you could do alone. Don't go hang out with her friends you don't want to become a part of your world you want her to become a part of your world. Without you giving attraction and comfort for HER to feel about YOU, she won't regard you as man enough. Thats just my 2 cents though. You may, however, want to give us more detail so we could be more direct with our answers...
I_Only_Live_Once
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I met her in University. We've known each other for a few years now. We keep in touch but we don't hang out that much except for a few times a year at these group party things. We know each other fairly well.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Midnight's post is mind boggling to me, but I'm going to guess that if you make yourself attractive and make her feel comfortable she will see you in a different light.
That kind of talk is what Millions of Nice Guys do all the time. They dress nice, talk nice, and able to provide all the worldly effects of a boyfriend without the sex.
The truth is however, she may either see you as a friend, uncomfortable being alone with you (if a girl is really interested in you, she'd try to spend as much time with you one on one.) , or other ulterior motives which do not parallel themselves with her "wanting to be your girlfriend."
That kind of talk is what Millions of Nice Guys do all the time. They dress nice, talk nice, and able to provide all the worldly effects of a boyfriend without the sex.
The truth is however, she may either see you as a friend, uncomfortable being alone with you (if a girl is really interested in you, she'd try to spend as much time with you one on one.) , or other ulterior motives which do not parallel themselves with her "wanting to be your girlfriend."