I_Only_Live_Once
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she's a really good looking girl, and she invites me out...but it's never one on one...it's always to do group things...and she encourages me to bring people as well.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
what does it mean if a girl only wants to hang out with you in a group?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
she is not comfortable hanging out with you alone. Work on attraction and comfort make these issues your focus. Come up with some ideas on things you could do alone. Don't go hang out with her friends you don't want to become a part of your world you want her to become a part of your world. Without you giving attraction and comfort for HER to feel about YOU, she won't regard you as man enough. Thats just my 2 cents though.
she is not comfortable hanging out with you alone. Work on attraction and comfort make these issues your focus. Come up with some ideas on things you could do alone. Don't go hang out with her friends you don't want to become a part of your world you want her to become a part of your world. Without you giving attraction and comfort for HER to feel about YOU, she won't regard you as man enough. Thats just my 2 cents though. You may, however, want to give us more detail so we could be more direct with our answers...
I_Only_Live_Once
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I met her in University. We've known each other for a few years now. We keep in touch but we don't hang out that much except for a few times a year at these group party things. We know each other fairly well.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Midnight's post is mind boggling to me, but I'm going to guess that if you make yourself attractive and make her feel comfortable she will see you in a different light.
That kind of talk is what Millions of Nice Guys do all the time. They dress nice, talk nice, and able to provide all the worldly effects of a boyfriend without the sex.
The truth is however, she may either see you as a friend, uncomfortable being alone with you (if a girl is really interested in you, she'd try to spend as much time with you one on one.) , or other ulterior motives which do not parallel themselves with her "wanting to be your girlfriend."
That kind of talk is what Millions of Nice Guys do all the time. They dress nice, talk nice, and able to provide all the worldly effects of a boyfriend without the sex.
The truth is however, she may either see you as a friend, uncomfortable being alone with you (if a girl is really interested in you, she'd try to spend as much time with you one on one.) , or other ulterior motives which do not parallel themselves with her "wanting to be your girlfriend."