I_Only_Live_Once
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she's a really good looking girl, and she invites me out...but it's never one on one...it's always to do group things...and she encourages me to bring people as well.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
what does it mean if a girl only wants to hang out with you in a group?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
she is not comfortable hanging out with you alone. Work on attraction and comfort make these issues your focus. Come up with some ideas on things you could do alone. Don't go hang out with her friends you don't want to become a part of your world you want her to become a part of your world. Without you giving attraction and comfort for HER to feel about YOU, she won't regard you as man enough. Thats just my 2 cents though.
she is not comfortable hanging out with you alone. Work on attraction and comfort make these issues your focus. Come up with some ideas on things you could do alone. Don't go hang out with her friends you don't want to become a part of your world you want her to become a part of your world. Without you giving attraction and comfort for HER to feel about YOU, she won't regard you as man enough. Thats just my 2 cents though. You may, however, want to give us more detail so we could be more direct with our answers...
I_Only_Live_Once
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I met her in University. We've known each other for a few years now. We keep in touch but we don't hang out that much except for a few times a year at these group party things. We know each other fairly well.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Midnight's post is mind boggling to me, but I'm going to guess that if you make yourself attractive and make her feel comfortable she will see you in a different light.
That kind of talk is what Millions of Nice Guys do all the time. They dress nice, talk nice, and able to provide all the worldly effects of a boyfriend without the sex.
The truth is however, she may either see you as a friend, uncomfortable being alone with you (if a girl is really interested in you, she'd try to spend as much time with you one on one.) , or other ulterior motives which do not parallel themselves with her "wanting to be your girlfriend."
That kind of talk is what Millions of Nice Guys do all the time. They dress nice, talk nice, and able to provide all the worldly effects of a boyfriend without the sex.
The truth is however, she may either see you as a friend, uncomfortable being alone with you (if a girl is really interested in you, she'd try to spend as much time with you one on one.) , or other ulterior motives which do not parallel themselves with her "wanting to be your girlfriend."