"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Metro3pilot

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started talking to a girl at applebees last week pretty cute 6 or 7 with a group of friends isolated her ..... but I failed to number close that night .... she kept saying I hang out here a lot hope to see you again blah blah blah

during our chat she started talking about where she works JC penny and what department she worked in

my question is it stalker like to try and number close her at work or what ? ? ?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, that's the real trick isn't it?

New to the board, but I've read through the rest of the site and it's great. Ultimately I think it's ideal to grab the number at the first opportunity - but, as with anything in this area it's not 100% definate. Swing by in a couple days, see if you can find her. Maybe give it one or two more go's. Obviously the dangers are apparent. You don't want to dig yourself into the mental trap of wanting her, and her alone to the exclusion of other women. - chasing her too actively will put you at risk for that sort of obsessive behavior. And secondly you don't want to appear to desperate to her, by chasing her and pining for a meet up - definately not the Don Juan mentality.
 

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Whoa, you do not need to isolate in order to number close. Isolate if you want to move her to a different location.

Number closing in front of her friends offers several advantages. It displays confidence and activates her commitment/consistency mechanism. Her friends saw her give you her number, they will want details later. This sets up an interesting dynamic that helps you in your first phone convo. Of course what you do then is up to you.

Short answer to your question, number closing a woman at her workplace is not stalker behavior. So go and get her number already.
 
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