"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Metro3pilot

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started talking to a girl at applebees last week pretty cute 6 or 7 with a group of friends isolated her ..... but I failed to number close that night .... she kept saying I hang out here a lot hope to see you again blah blah blah

during our chat she started talking about where she works JC penny and what department she worked in

my question is it stalker like to try and number close her at work or what ? ? ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well, that's the real trick isn't it?

New to the board, but I've read through the rest of the site and it's great. Ultimately I think it's ideal to grab the number at the first opportunity - but, as with anything in this area it's not 100% definate. Swing by in a couple days, see if you can find her. Maybe give it one or two more go's. Obviously the dangers are apparent. You don't want to dig yourself into the mental trap of wanting her, and her alone to the exclusion of other women. - chasing her too actively will put you at risk for that sort of obsessive behavior. And secondly you don't want to appear to desperate to her, by chasing her and pining for a meet up - definately not the Don Juan mentality.
 

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Whoa, you do not need to isolate in order to number close. Isolate if you want to move her to a different location.

Number closing in front of her friends offers several advantages. It displays confidence and activates her commitment/consistency mechanism. Her friends saw her give you her number, they will want details later. This sets up an interesting dynamic that helps you in your first phone convo. Of course what you do then is up to you.

Short answer to your question, number closing a woman at her workplace is not stalker behavior. So go and get her number already.
 
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