"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BxPrince24

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This girl at my school really likes me and I've became attracted to her. Thing is that my friend really likes her, he even proposed to her in the classroom in front of everyone ( I wasn't there, the teacher told me about it. Me & her are cool like that.) I don't know what she said, but I think that she doesn't feel the same way she feels about me with him. She doesn't provoke him or anything and she's always showing up around me, like today i must have seen her at least 8 times and she called me everytime she saw me. She plays like she doesn't like me but her actions speak otherwise, and i play like i don't like her either. But yea, so the way I'm thinking right now is, I've never had a gf, my friend has had plenty, he's had sex, I haven't. Why should I let him get the girl? Do you guys agree with my views on this? I know that if I get with her, he's gonna hate the living hell outta me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mr. Debonaire

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don't let him get the girl

live for YOURSELF!

if she's single and neither of you have dated her before she's fair game

plus if he gets pissed you can point out that he's gotten alot more then you (at the risk of sounding a little pathetic)
 

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ok...

if u really really like her then u should just go for her

if ur really tight with your friend then theres many other girls u guys can go for....
 

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Isn't this an option...
Letting the friend know??
I guess it all depends on how close you are..
I have been in the same situation, no problem in letting him know how you feel. If he is a good friend he will understand, if not, oh well...go for it.
 

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Thing is that even though we're friends he's tries to be in a competition with me every now and then. He thinks that I have no chance with her because according to him I'm not as good as he is yet. Little does he know. but I just might let him know what's up with it. And I'm gonna ask her if she's feeling anything for him.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm no expert, but I'm thinking that you will come off as needy if you start asking her if she likes your friend. That's probably not the way you want to go with this. Just play it cool and don't tell her how you feel or anything like that because then she'll think you're a pvssy and lose interest.
 

BxPrince24

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I was just thinking about that. I'll only mention it to my friend since it would affect him.
 

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BE A MAN!

do you remember the freashmen years? not getting the girl? well here is your chance. Its dog eat dog world and you have to jump in the middle of this if you like her and dont want to be the one every one steps on, other wise... theres always internet dating?
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