So I met this girl today who is pretty new to the school (high school), we talked and got to know each other for a little bit. I said that "well I'm always in the library working on stuff and we can always chill". She said that "that's cool yeah, I'm always here too" (never saw her in here before lols). So she is expecting to see me tommorow at the library but I'm not going to see her for another couple days, reason being is because it shows I'm not desperate, not predictable and mystery.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
what do you think about this tactic?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
yea definitely working on that.Jhcl4000 said:Don't get friend-zoned.
Igetit!
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Dude,don't do this.JJ109 said:So I met this girl today who is pretty new to the school (high school), we talked and got to know each other for a little bit. I said that "well I'm always in the library working on stuff and we can always chill". She said that "that's cool yeah, I'm always here too" (never saw her in here before lols). So she is expecting to see me tommorow at the library but I'm not going to see her for another couple days, reason being is because it shows I'm not desperate, not predictable and mystery.
I understand you don't want to come off as being predictable or desperate,but come on man,you're starting off going over board.
You need to establish an emotionbal connect first before you start pulling back. Just go there and talk to her,but make sure you flirt and tease her FIRST before you go with the "what classes do you like","what do you like to do for fun", comfort type of questions.
When you see her,be like,"Wow,I like the way you look in that (whatever she's wearing). You didn't have to get all dressed up for ME".
Start with attraction,then move on to comfort. If you start with comfort,you'll run the risk of getting friendzoned.
Go ahead and go see her tomorrow. Make a connection first,then you can start being scarce.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Exactly. High school people put TOO much stock into what David DeAngelo says. Being "unpredictable and not needy" doesn't create attraction, it just increases it when you already have it, which you don't.Igetit! said:Dude,don't do this.
I understand you don't want to come off as being predictable or desperate,but come on man,you're starting off going over board.
You need to establish an emotionbal connect first before you start pulling back. Just go there and talk to her,but make sure you flirt and tease her FIRST before you go with the "what classes do you like","what do you like to do for fun", comfort type of questions.
When you see her,be like,"Wow,I like the way you look in that (whatever she's wearing). You didn't have to get all dressed up for ME".
Start with attraction,then move on to comfort. If you start with comfort,you'll run the risk of getting friendzoned.
Go ahead and go see her tomorrow. Make a connection first,then you can start being scarce.