So I met this girl today who is pretty new to the school (high school), we talked and got to know each other for a little bit. I said that "well I'm always in the library working on stuff and we can always chill". She said that "that's cool yeah, I'm always here too" (never saw her in here before lols). So she is expecting to see me tommorow at the library but I'm not going to see her for another couple days, reason being is because it shows I'm not desperate, not predictable and mystery.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
yea definitely working on that.Jhcl4000 said:Don't get friend-zoned.
Igetit!
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Dude,don't do this.JJ109 said:So I met this girl today who is pretty new to the school (high school), we talked and got to know each other for a little bit. I said that "well I'm always in the library working on stuff and we can always chill". She said that "that's cool yeah, I'm always here too" (never saw her in here before lols). So she is expecting to see me tommorow at the library but I'm not going to see her for another couple days, reason being is because it shows I'm not desperate, not predictable and mystery.
I understand you don't want to come off as being predictable or desperate,but come on man,you're starting off going over board.
You need to establish an emotionbal connect first before you start pulling back. Just go there and talk to her,but make sure you flirt and tease her FIRST before you go with the "what classes do you like","what do you like to do for fun", comfort type of questions.
When you see her,be like,"Wow,I like the way you look in that (whatever she's wearing). You didn't have to get all dressed up for ME".
Start with attraction,then move on to comfort. If you start with comfort,you'll run the risk of getting friendzoned.
Go ahead and go see her tomorrow. Make a connection first,then you can start being scarce.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Exactly. High school people put TOO much stock into what David DeAngelo says. Being "unpredictable and not needy" doesn't create attraction, it just increases it when you already have it, which you don't.Igetit! said:Dude,don't do this.
I understand you don't want to come off as being predictable or desperate,but come on man,you're starting off going over board.
You need to establish an emotionbal connect first before you start pulling back. Just go there and talk to her,but make sure you flirt and tease her FIRST before you go with the "what classes do you like","what do you like to do for fun", comfort type of questions.
When you see her,be like,"Wow,I like the way you look in that (whatever she's wearing). You didn't have to get all dressed up for ME".
Start with attraction,then move on to comfort. If you start with comfort,you'll run the risk of getting friendzoned.
Go ahead and go see her tomorrow. Make a connection first,then you can start being scarce.