"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What do you think about the "bend over boyfriend"?

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http://www.alternet.org/sex/83459/why_i_agreed_to_be_a_bend-over_boyfriend/

The first time my girlfriend fücked me in the ass it was with a small purple strap-on dildo that her ex-girlfriend had shipped from Ohio. Like any lady should before taking her man's anal virginity, my girlfriend took me for a night on the town beforehand. Walking home, after dinner and a long stop at a bar, we decided it was about time I made good on an earlier promise to let her screw me for a change.
It was early on in our relationship when Mac asked if I would let her fück me in the äss with a strap-on, and I was drunk.
I was head over heels for her, and I wanted to make her happy. I thought that along with pretty flowers and little cupcakes, letting her fück me in the brown eye would be a way to show my appreciation for her.
For me it wasn't a sexual orientation thing, or a power thing: It was just a sex thing. And if Mac feels like sliding her long legs into that harness tonight, I'll be more than happy to get on all fours and take it in the äss like a man.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I guess you could consider it no different than a back massage, if it feels good...
 

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More proof of the effeminacy of males in western culture.

Hell if those men to act like chicks they might as well be fvcked like one.

I still don't know how women can respect a guy like that, my guess is that they don't.
 

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How much further can men descend in this insane belief that "pleasing" a woman is the key to a successful relationship.

Sickening.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BTW, I have had women who have given be a digital rectal message whilst lovemaking, and it is an interesting and nice feeling (especially for men like me who have a prostate condition.) But this seems to be done out of power, not pleasure.
 

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C'mon, you guys never had some girl give you a digital rim job right as you are blowing your load inside her?

Feels good.

I don't know about taking a huge purple dildo up the A$$ though...
 

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ok this is fuking gay and queer and is the opposite of Don Juan. Let's not backslide.
 

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I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's something you enjoy and you're not doing it just to make someone else happy.

I wouldn't be that into it I don't think. I've had a finger up there before, and it's pretty uncomfortable (though I haven't tried it in a sexual context, so who knows?).

Those of you saying this is somehow automatically gay are ridiculous, how insecure in your manhood are you? You either enjoy it or you don't. Remind me what's gay about being with a woman. Obviously being penetrated puts you in the more submissive position (depending on who you ask), but I think it takes a real man to be able to admit to doing and enjoying something like this without insecurity.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's something you enjoy and you're not doing it just to make someone else happy.

I wouldn't be that into it I don't think. I've had a finger up there before, and it's pretty uncomfortable (though I haven't tried it in a sexual context, so who knows?).

Those of you saying this is somehow automatically gay are ridiculous, how insecure in your manhood are you? You either enjoy it or you don't. Remind me what's gay about being with a woman. Obviously being penetrated puts you in the more submissive position (depending on who you ask), but I think it takes a real man to be able to admit to doing and enjoying something like this without insecurity.
LOL - it takes a real man huh...
 

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"What do you think about the "bend over boyfriend"?"

I think those guys are closet homosexuals who need to come out of the closet already.
 

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's something you enjoy and you're not doing it just to make someone else happy.
Read the story again. HE disliked the experience and, most disturbing of all, he agreed to do it to "please her", like some dumb needy teenager.

Who is the biggest perverted baitch here ? I vote for him.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jophil28 said:
Read the story again. HE disliked the experience and, most disturbing of all, he agreed to do it to "please her", like some dumb needy teenager.

Who is the biggest perverted baitch here ? I vote for him.
I only read the quotes that the OP inserted, but I don't think anyone should do things in bed they don't want to do just to please the other person. Find someone you're more sexually compatible with.
 

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Just because it's pleasurable, and it may be, doesn't mean you should automatically do this.

Stimulation digitally upon mutual equal 'fair' encounters is one thing.

Taking it with a dildo while bent over and purposely planning it out while your girl TAKES YOU OUT like a man would take a woman out is a whole (no pun) different scenario.

There is a relational dynamic occuring here where the female is clearly the dominant masculine figure. While this may work initially or for a casual encounter, over time she will lose respect for the man.

This is not a healthy relationship dynamic. It is not becoming of a MAN who desires to have the proper and fulfilling man-woman relationship and be ultimately happy.
 

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Some people have too much fvcking time on their hands.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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