"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What do you think about the "bend over boyfriend"?

MatureDJ

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http://www.alternet.org/sex/83459/why_i_agreed_to_be_a_bend-over_boyfriend/

The first time my girlfriend fücked me in the ass it was with a small purple strap-on dildo that her ex-girlfriend had shipped from Ohio. Like any lady should before taking her man's anal virginity, my girlfriend took me for a night on the town beforehand. Walking home, after dinner and a long stop at a bar, we decided it was about time I made good on an earlier promise to let her screw me for a change.
It was early on in our relationship when Mac asked if I would let her fück me in the äss with a strap-on, and I was drunk.
I was head over heels for her, and I wanted to make her happy. I thought that along with pretty flowers and little cupcakes, letting her fück me in the brown eye would be a way to show my appreciation for her.
For me it wasn't a sexual orientation thing, or a power thing: It was just a sex thing. And if Mac feels like sliding her long legs into that harness tonight, I'll be more than happy to get on all fours and take it in the äss like a man.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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piranha45

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I guess you could consider it no different than a back massage, if it feels good...
 

DJDamage

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More proof of the effeminacy of males in western culture.

Hell if those men to act like chicks they might as well be fvcked like one.

I still don't know how women can respect a guy like that, my guess is that they don't.
 

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How much further can men descend in this insane belief that "pleasing" a woman is the key to a successful relationship.

Sickening.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MatureDJ

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BTW, I have had women who have given be a digital rectal message whilst lovemaking, and it is an interesting and nice feeling (especially for men like me who have a prostate condition.) But this seems to be done out of power, not pleasure.
 

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C'mon, you guys never had some girl give you a digital rim job right as you are blowing your load inside her?

Feels good.

I don't know about taking a huge purple dildo up the A$$ though...
 

jacob

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ok this is fuking gay and queer and is the opposite of Don Juan. Let's not backslide.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's something you enjoy and you're not doing it just to make someone else happy.

I wouldn't be that into it I don't think. I've had a finger up there before, and it's pretty uncomfortable (though I haven't tried it in a sexual context, so who knows?).

Those of you saying this is somehow automatically gay are ridiculous, how insecure in your manhood are you? You either enjoy it or you don't. Remind me what's gay about being with a woman. Obviously being penetrated puts you in the more submissive position (depending on who you ask), but I think it takes a real man to be able to admit to doing and enjoying something like this without insecurity.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wjh

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's something you enjoy and you're not doing it just to make someone else happy.

I wouldn't be that into it I don't think. I've had a finger up there before, and it's pretty uncomfortable (though I haven't tried it in a sexual context, so who knows?).

Those of you saying this is somehow automatically gay are ridiculous, how insecure in your manhood are you? You either enjoy it or you don't. Remind me what's gay about being with a woman. Obviously being penetrated puts you in the more submissive position (depending on who you ask), but I think it takes a real man to be able to admit to doing and enjoying something like this without insecurity.
LOL - it takes a real man huh...
 

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"What do you think about the "bend over boyfriend"?"

I think those guys are closet homosexuals who need to come out of the closet already.
 

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's something you enjoy and you're not doing it just to make someone else happy.
Read the story again. HE disliked the experience and, most disturbing of all, he agreed to do it to "please her", like some dumb needy teenager.

Who is the biggest perverted baitch here ? I vote for him.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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jophil28 said:
Read the story again. HE disliked the experience and, most disturbing of all, he agreed to do it to "please her", like some dumb needy teenager.

Who is the biggest perverted baitch here ? I vote for him.
I only read the quotes that the OP inserted, but I don't think anyone should do things in bed they don't want to do just to please the other person. Find someone you're more sexually compatible with.
 

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Just because it's pleasurable, and it may be, doesn't mean you should automatically do this.

Stimulation digitally upon mutual equal 'fair' encounters is one thing.

Taking it with a dildo while bent over and purposely planning it out while your girl TAKES YOU OUT like a man would take a woman out is a whole (no pun) different scenario.

There is a relational dynamic occuring here where the female is clearly the dominant masculine figure. While this may work initially or for a casual encounter, over time she will lose respect for the man.

This is not a healthy relationship dynamic. It is not becoming of a MAN who desires to have the proper and fulfilling man-woman relationship and be ultimately happy.
 

speed dawg

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Some people have too much fvcking time on their hands.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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