NotaNewbie
Don Juan
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Why are you so ****y/conceited? I usually just say Thanks.. but i think that reply makes me look like a True Born AFC
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i wouldn't do that.bigjohnson said:"I'm not conceited, I just really am that good." - but with a sort of grin to add that C&F ness to it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Maybe, but that one has actually worked for me, and nothing succeeds like success as they say. If she's already convinced you're a prick you're ready to have a fork put in you anyway most likely.Kev07 said:i wouldn't do that.
a response like that could push playful thinking you're ****y into seriously thinking you're an arrogant prick.
With you man. This works for me all the time.:rockon:bigjohnson said:Maybe, but that one has actually worked for me, and nothing succeeds like success as they say. If she's already convinced you're a prick you're ready to have a fork put in you anyway most likely.
Analyze? ANALYZE???snorida44x said:So that we can further analyze this, what ****y and funny statements did you say to her?
Actually I'm also curious as to what is causing these women to ask this.kyphan said:Analyze? ANALYZE???
I enjoy being a funny guy, and there have been many times when a lady has told me I'm supposed to be nice to her, I'm too ****y, I'm such a jerk, blah blah blah - they loved it! From time to time I go to far, like anyone. If the woman does not like my sense of humor, she is probably not worth my time.
You guys kill me. STOP BEING SO SERIOUS ABOUT GETTING WOMEN.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If we wanted to analyze his situation we would need to have witnessed it. There are subtle things that we'll never know: what he said, how he said it, how he sounded, her exact words, how her words sounded, the look on her face, the way her body moved when she responded, etc. Just posting the words will not be enough. Being ****y and funny is learned, and the only way to learn is to try things out.snorida44x said:if it makes you feel better, i'll change it to comment, but there's no way to know if he is doing ****y and funny right if he didn't tell us the statements he made. we can give him all the comebacks to say, but none of them might work if he's doing ****y and funny wrong. If your not serious about getting women and your a beginner , you will get little or nowhere. I can see that statement being true once your experienced but for someone like the original poster it's not.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The best reply: "Because I am used to getting things that I want" (then look her up and down, stare at her eyes with a sly grin).NotaNewbie said:Why are you so ****y/conceited?