NotaNewbie
Don Juan
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Why are you so ****y/conceited? I usually just say Thanks.. but i think that reply makes me look like a True Born AFC
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i wouldn't do that.bigjohnson said:"I'm not conceited, I just really am that good." - but with a sort of grin to add that C&F ness to it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Maybe, but that one has actually worked for me, and nothing succeeds like success as they say. If she's already convinced you're a prick you're ready to have a fork put in you anyway most likely.Kev07 said:i wouldn't do that.
a response like that could push playful thinking you're ****y into seriously thinking you're an arrogant prick.
With you man. This works for me all the time.:rockon:bigjohnson said:Maybe, but that one has actually worked for me, and nothing succeeds like success as they say. If she's already convinced you're a prick you're ready to have a fork put in you anyway most likely.
Analyze? ANALYZE???snorida44x said:So that we can further analyze this, what ****y and funny statements did you say to her?
Actually I'm also curious as to what is causing these women to ask this.kyphan said:Analyze? ANALYZE???
I enjoy being a funny guy, and there have been many times when a lady has told me I'm supposed to be nice to her, I'm too ****y, I'm such a jerk, blah blah blah - they loved it! From time to time I go to far, like anyone. If the woman does not like my sense of humor, she is probably not worth my time.
You guys kill me. STOP BEING SO SERIOUS ABOUT GETTING WOMEN.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If we wanted to analyze his situation we would need to have witnessed it. There are subtle things that we'll never know: what he said, how he said it, how he sounded, her exact words, how her words sounded, the look on her face, the way her body moved when she responded, etc. Just posting the words will not be enough. Being ****y and funny is learned, and the only way to learn is to try things out.snorida44x said:if it makes you feel better, i'll change it to comment, but there's no way to know if he is doing ****y and funny right if he didn't tell us the statements he made. we can give him all the comebacks to say, but none of them might work if he's doing ****y and funny wrong. If your not serious about getting women and your a beginner , you will get little or nowhere. I can see that statement being true once your experienced but for someone like the original poster it's not.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The best reply: "Because I am used to getting things that I want" (then look her up and down, stare at her eyes with a sly grin).NotaNewbie said:Why are you so ****y/conceited?