MindOverMatter
Master Don Juan
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it makes the muscles in your neck denser and thicker, and makes it harder for someone to strangle you.
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is there anything that I can do to fix this?Originally posted by Fatality
You just don't want it bad enough.
You can stop thinking like a failure would. If a guy like this can go to the gym ( http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=523356 ), and give his 200%, there's no reason you shouldn't.Originally posted by Visceral
Is there anything that I can do to fix this?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PM meIs there anything that I can do to fix this?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
don't forget "robs protein delivery trucks at night"!- arrogant, superior, smug, conceited, self-praising bastard.![]()
lolOriginally posted by MindOverMatter
don't forget "robs protein delivery trucks at night"!