"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What do you hide from your Girlfriends and Plates?
- Thread starter Urbanyst
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
resilient
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My unsolicited advice would be to withdraw attention if they're getting too nosy or they aren't riding along with your answers...
When she asks my job I say "Biomedical field service rep" which is true.
I purposely withhold company name & salary info.
Sexual History. I don't want to know theirs. They don't need to know mine. As long as she is STD free I could care less.
Political & Religious views. Something I would only want to know about as we get closer to being in an LTR.
That's about it. Depending on the girl, if she gives me a vindictive vibe I may withhold the location of my personal residence.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I don't volunteer information about my other plates or the number of girls I have banged. Even if they ask, j don't answer. If they ask how many other women I'm seeing, I just chuckle or make my answer playful and change the topic.
I agree with cola. Not a single woman I dated knew how much money I made or exactly what I did for work. I also don't talk about my religious views. I'm spiritual, but not religious so if a girl is religious, I'd probably next her.
One of my plates told me this weekend: "You know everything about me and I don't know anything about you!" So I replied with: "What do you want to know?" and she started asking loads of questions. I was very evasive in my answers which frustrated her. Then she asked me what is the big secret why I don't open up. Then I asked her why she is trying to f*ck up our relationship when things are going so well. She said she just wants to know I trust her. Then I told her I will trust her more if she puts all her money in my bank account. She didn't like that.
From past experience, women will tell you they are trying to bond and its because they "care". But sometimes they're digging for info they can use to gain power. Already been through that. Lots of bad experiences opening up to women.
In the LTR department I'm still not 100% on how much to reveal to women. Some women can be trusted more than others, but you never really know. I've had women I thought I could trust turn on me in the past.
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I hear ya man. That happens to me every time. You think that their questions are representative on behalf of their high interest level or attempts to increase intimacy, strengthen a pair-bond, when most often it's usually their hamster gathering ammunition that they use against you to gain leverage over you like you said or rationalize monkey branch jumping.
Keep your DJ skills sharp with this one. She may prove to be too much maintenance to keep as a plate. That's up to your discretion though.
Lol'd at the money in bank comment.
QuadDeuces
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
EmotionalGeek
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devilkingx2
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I wasn't with you until this line, this line makes her sound really fishy
Lol.
You answered your own question bro. She doesn't really about care you, the relationship, the closeness, the oneness, the intimacy, or the sex. She wants to get leverage so she can use it against you. She feels like she has no POWER in the relationship and is digging to get it.
Think about it, if everything is awesome, why is she looking to ''change'' the terms now?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeah, she has almost no power in the relationship at all. That's how I usually roll with women. But its also why (I think) my relationships never pass the one year mark. I never give women that power they want.
So I'm wondering if I need to loosen up more to stretch out these relationships? While replacing women is easy, its getting old having to do it so often. I'd like to date my plates longer so I can focus more on making money.
Hell no...never give up your power,I never do and I can make it last for years..sounds like you have a frame issue.
True.
I actually credit a lot of my career success to my short relationships with women. They're a major distraction. Now that I'm further in my career I figured maybe I can extend my relationships a little longer so I don't have to spend as much time/energy pulling new women. Work is getting busier and I don't have as much time to pull new plates.
I do. May main issue is I hate drama.
So when drama comes I either dump the girl or disengage from her.. which makes things worse. Drama is one of those sh*t tests I always fail. I'm too logical.