relationsshiptips
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What do you guys think?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I know you think her interest level is high. It is. But if you reciprocate it too much and too often, her IL will drop (so much so that you might be LJBFed). I obviously don't know the specific circumstances of your situation, but I would recommend putting her on the backburner for a while in order to HELP HER sustain her IL in you. Trust me, as soon as she knows (consciously OR unconsciously) that she has "caught" you, she will stop chasing...
Good luck!
Good luck!
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Good advice, when she calls over the next few days should I answer or just be busy for awhile?
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You have your own life to live, which is NOT DEPENDENT on women, including the one in question. (If women are the sole focus or purpose of your life, you need to seriously consider stepping outside of yourself and observing wtf is going on...but I digress .) Let some of her calls go to voice mail (if she's one to leave messages), or answer one or two every now and then but try to be doing something (work, hobby, exercise, sleep, eating, whatever) so you are actually busy. If you aren't busy, fake it: you're not just another common man who she can call up on HER time whenever she feels like she needs some attention. Make her feel like you are a scarce good, and she will put you in the "high demand" category. And flirt with other girls; it's good for you! :rockon:
.) Let some of her calls go to voice mail (if she's one to leave messages), or answer one or two every now and then but try to be doing something (work, hobby, exercise, sleep, eating, whatever) so you are actually busy. If you aren't busy, fake it: you're not just another common man who she can call up on HER time whenever she feels like she needs some attention. Make her feel like you are a scarce good, and she will put you in the "high demand" category. And flirt with other girls; it's good for you! :rockon: