"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TheBaconator

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So i went out with this girl last wednesday, we had a great time, lots of flirting/kino and hooked up at the end. Only problem is she just got out of a LTR and still has some feelings for the ex, and got upset when she found out he was with another girl that night (they had been hooking up again which I didn't know prior to the date) and she had this big blowup. At the end of the night they got into a fight over the fone and she said they were done dont worry.

So fast forward to today, I didn't speak to her at all since the date except reply "don't sweat it" to her apology text for ruining my nite. Now I see her at school today and she comes over says high with a huge smile and gives me a friendly kiss on the cheek (if you live in NY you know that's how girls greet friends). She was running so we didn't talk. Maybe i'm over anlyizing, but does this sound like i'm friended? I'm gonna ask her out again, maybe next weekend, just wondering anyones thoughts on this.

I didn't expect a hookup in the middle of campus, but the cheek kiss makes me think she doesn't want it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mavrick

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The way to not be LJBF zoned is to go for what you want and stop being her b!tch.
 

TheBaconator

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Mavrick said:
The way to not be LJBF zoned is to go for what you want and stop being her b!tch.
How am I being her b*tch? I went out and made my move. I am going to ask her to do something again, just wondering if anyone had opinions on the cheek kiss.
 

Mavrick

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I'm not saying that you are, I'm saying you don't become her friend be making it obvious of your intentions. Don't get wound up tight.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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