"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What Do You Guys Think Of This? Unusual Situation?

RockaRolla25

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I was seeing this girl on/off for a few years but it never turned into anything serious.

One day I got tired of playing games and decided to go no contact and just forget about her. This was about 2 and a half years ago.

Now just the other day, I get a text from her saying that she misses me and she hopes I'm doing well. (Keep in mind it's been 2 and a half years)

I ignored the text because I don't care anymore.

Then a few days after she sends me the text, I looked on her facebook and find out she's now engaged to her boyfriend. So, obviously they have been going out for a while. I just started laughing and said to myself, "That's odd. Why would she text me if she was in a serious relationship?"

What do you guys think? Why would she wait over 2 years to contact me again? And why would she do it when she's already in an obviously serious relationship with her boyfriend?

Do you guys think this is an unusual situation? I'm just wondering what game she could possibly be playing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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coochieman

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Nothing unusual yet to me.
We wouldn't know why she contacted you just as much as you don't too. Maybe she just remembered you.

If you still don't care, then really just don't care.... At least until she states her reasons for contacting you clearly.
I suggest you continue enjoying your fine life bro.
 

horaholic

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Not unusual at all. Dont try to decipher the meaning. It could be a genuine 'see how you're doing,' text, or a plot to make you jealous of her engagement, or her fiance pissed her off, so she texted you out of spite for him, or all of the above. it doesnt matter.
 

cola

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horaholic said:
Not unusual at all. Dont try to decipher the meaning. It could be a genuine 'see how you're doing,' text, or a plot to make you jealous of her engagement, or her fiance pissed her off, so she texted you out of spite for him, or all of the above. it doesnt matter.

This. More specifically this part
or her fiance pissed her off, so she texted you out of spite for him
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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old_skoolr

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Or maybe she wants you back, and that text was a last resort to see if ud come back to her and b with her......who knows,

at the end of the day, too little info given, too many possibilities, and too much time is going to be wasted figuring it out.....enjoy ur life bro
 

Down Low

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The off-and-on nature of your relationship tells me that she's an unfaithful type. She's always blowing with the wind (bad pun I know). She cheated on you with every guy that came along (another bad pun). She's going out of her way to cheat on her present fiance. If he's so AFC that he ignores the fluids leaking out of her every night, she'll cheat on her wedding day with some guy she wakes up with, with the taxi driver, with the best man, with the limo driver, and with some random prick she meets in the casino after the groom falls asleep. Count your blessings that you weren't stupid enough to propose to her.
 

marmel75

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Maybe she wanted to get it one more time before she gets married?
 
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