"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What do you guys think I should do with this?

snowdog

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Ok here is the deal. I know a really hot chick, but I see her only once a month. Nothing I can do about that. Last time I had the intention of asking her out/getting her number, but I didn't. Don't ask my why, but I just didn't. Of course, I can shoot myself for not asking her because we had a nice chat a couple of times. I could had created the opportunity.

Anyway, I have her on this myspace-kinda site. My question is: Is it okay to ask her out though that? I would normally never consider doing it that way (I'm more a fan of doing things more personal), but then again she's hot so a ton of other dudes chase her, AND I only see her again in a month. On the other hand, it's really easy to blow someone off through a site like that.


What would the Don do in this situation?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i wld wait until i see her again to tell her that. its not wise to take the msn path, ESPECIALLY with a hot one. who knows wat she'll think of you. don't risk it
 

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God NO! I've tried this before in my AFC days and it did not work (I got a number but it never went anywhere). Granted I was an AFC back then but I believe this move in general is seen as AFC. You need to ask in person. Just MAKE SURE you escalate and get a number/date next time you see her. Since you're friends on that website you should be able to know if she has a boyfriend by then. Stop with the oneitis and find other girls in person.
 

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ezily said:
God NO! I've tried this before in my AFC days and it did not work (I got a number but it never went anywhere).
I second that. It's best if you start building attraction when you see her in person (especially kino) and then ask her if she wants to come along to something or other. Then you can get her number.
 

snowdog

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I second that. It's best if you start building attraction when you see her in person (especially kino) and then ask her if she wants to come along to something or other. Then you can get her number.
Every time we meet it feels good, and I use a lot of kino infact. But it's kinda hard because most of the time her friends are around and sh*t.

I know I should have, could have.... phrases that I hate. Phrases I have been able to avoid for a while actually, with girls I'm not totally crazy about. This subject is a different story though.

ezily said:
Stop with the oneitis and find other girls in person.
Easier said then done bro.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mavrick

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Drive out to her house in the middle of the night, take out your jam box, and turn it up as loud as you can. Play "In Your Eyes" by Peter Gabriel. Hold it high and confidently so that you can win her heart forever.

You can't lose.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_J-lxK8uCY
 
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