"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What do you guys think I should do with this?

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Ok here is the deal. I know a really hot chick, but I see her only once a month. Nothing I can do about that. Last time I had the intention of asking her out/getting her number, but I didn't. Don't ask my why, but I just didn't. Of course, I can shoot myself for not asking her because we had a nice chat a couple of times. I could had created the opportunity.

Anyway, I have her on this myspace-kinda site. My question is: Is it okay to ask her out though that? I would normally never consider doing it that way (I'm more a fan of doing things more personal), but then again she's hot so a ton of other dudes chase her, AND I only see her again in a month. On the other hand, it's really easy to blow someone off through a site like that.


What would the Don do in this situation?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i wld wait until i see her again to tell her that. its not wise to take the msn path, ESPECIALLY with a hot one. who knows wat she'll think of you. don't risk it
 
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God NO! I've tried this before in my AFC days and it did not work (I got a number but it never went anywhere). Granted I was an AFC back then but I believe this move in general is seen as AFC. You need to ask in person. Just MAKE SURE you escalate and get a number/date next time you see her. Since you're friends on that website you should be able to know if she has a boyfriend by then. Stop with the oneitis and find other girls in person.
 
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ezily said:
God NO! I've tried this before in my AFC days and it did not work (I got a number but it never went anywhere).
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I second that. It's best if you start building attraction when you see her in person (especially kino) and then ask her if she wants to come along to something or other. Then you can get her number.
 
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I second that. It's best if you start building attraction when you see her in person (especially kino) and then ask her if she wants to come along to something or other. Then you can get her number.
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Every time we meet it feels good, and I use a lot of kino infact. But it's kinda hard because most of the time her friends are around and sh*t.

I know I should have, could have.... phrases that I hate. Phrases I have been able to avoid for a while actually, with girls I'm not totally crazy about. This subject is a different story though.

ezily said:
Stop with the oneitis and find other girls in person.
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Easier said then done bro.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Drive out to her house in the middle of the night, take out your jam box, and turn it up as loud as you can. Play "In Your Eyes" by Peter Gabriel. Hold it high and confidently so that you can win her heart forever.

You can't lose.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_J-lxK8uCY
 
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